My ex boyfriend wants to have sex with me but we are both in relationships, but I still love him a lot, what should I do?

Let me just get this out of the way. I think you are too young to have sex and although I understand it is on the mind of younger adolescents all the time and you are in love with your ex you should definitely wait. Having sex at this time would be the greatest mistake you could make and you will regret later in life, trust me.

Alright, thank for letting me get that out of the way. The way I am going to go about this is just by bringing a lot of ideas into perspective for you and let you make up your own mind from there. Although I hope that you will take my first point into consideration, it will no longer be referred to.

I will not judge you or your situation. I will merely do my best to help you, forget about the Mahalo Dollars and if you need more guidance on this I will message you my personal email. First things first.

You have several different issues going on at the same time right? Here is what I got from what you asked and what I could imply: You are already in a new relationship but you have feelings for your ex. You don't exactly want to end your current relationship unless you knew you were going to get back with your ex, which you don't.

Your ex is in a new relationship but says he doesn't like her, does she know this? Why are they still together then? You want to get back together with your ex because you still love him but it seems like he wants to have sex first, why?

You feel like you are ready for sex because that seems like it would be the next step in your relationship, already take part in make-out sessions, but you are worried you will not be able to make it feel good for him because you do not know what to do. You are both virgins and although you do kind of understand that this is special how special could it be to lose your virginity in a park or at your school? If there is more (I am sure there is) please let me know.

Now let me break it up one by one. You are already in a new relationship but you have feelings for your ex. You did not mention where you were in your current relationship but it seems like you still have very strong feelings for your ex.In fact, it seems like you are not very worried about the current relationship at all.

Whatever your reasons for your current relationship, in any relationship if you have very strong feelings about someone else you have two options. If you really want your current relationship to work out you need to tell them about your feelings for this other person and that even though you have these feelings you really love them and want to be with them. Otherwise an apology is in order and subsequently a breakup.

It is not fair to either of you to keep this information to yourself. If you are going to end things with this person then be kind in sharing any details that you feel need to be shared. You don't exactly want to end your current relationship unless you knew you were going to get back with your ex, which you don't.

As I said, it seems like you do not have any strings attached in the relationship that you are currently in and your main focus is towards whether your not you will be with your ex. If I am wrong about this and you feel like you may have something special in your current relationship then let me tell you from my own experiences that I have learned it is not worth the risk with your ex. Whatever your reasons for your current relationship you saw something special in this person and you thought that there was a chance things could work between you two.

Take what you already have and let the past go. Your relationship with your ex has already proved to have serious problems, with it being on and off over a period of time, and you will learn that there is far better than this. If there is nothing special about your current relationship then you should think about your relationship with your ex.

You were both obviously in love and even though there were really bad times there were really good times. There is definitely something special about him to you, I can easily understand if he was your first love. You should take your year together into perspective and start thinking about what was wrong and can you be with this person forever if they are they way they are right now?

This should be the goal of every relationship, although you will never really know at the beginning you should only consider relationship that you sincerely believe they will work out. Do not think about who your ex can be and how they can change. You love him now as he is, do you see yourself with him five, ten years down the road?

Although this may seen like a lot it is really nothing compared to the rest of your lives. Since your relationship with your ex has already had several ups and downs you need to think about what kind of relationship he can provide you Your ex is in a new relationship but says he doesn't like her, does she know this? Why are they still together then?

This just seems really bad to me. Does he have a girlfriend or not? Why would he have one if he did not like her?

If he did but not anymore why hasn't he already broken up? If he doesn't like her then this has nothing to do with you and him he should have ended things with her already.So again, why is he still with her? In case you do not come to him?

I really can not think of anything else. You want to get back together with your ex because you still love him but it seems like he wants to have sex first, why? Any relationship that is based off of sex will ultimately fail.

They do not go together. From the previous question we are left to wonder about why. Why would he want to have sex first and then more with you?

Right now you two are not even in a relationship so it really seems like he is jumping to me. Sex with you should be the last thing he would be planning. I can only think that he really is not planning about anything after sex with you.

No matter how you feel about him or how he couldn't possibly do this, it is more than possible. I am sorry. You feel like you are ready for sex because that seems like it would be the next step in your relationship, already take part in make-out sessions, but you are worried you will not be able to make it feel good for him because you do not know what to do.

Alright, I am going to give my perspective on sex and try help you with this. I know it may sound corny but I honestly do not think of it as sex. Sex is all physical while making love has more emotional connections for more.

It is something special you each share. This is much more of a mature topic but until a he understand this he is just a boy not a man. If he wants sex and says he loves you what you need to think is "I lust you.

" This is perfectly natural for a teenage bay (which may be a problem with teenage sex...) and it usually comes to the girl to have to recognize this. When it does come to a time when you are ready to share this most special gift with a man you should not worry about him. Remember, it is all about you and how you feel.

Just remember to take it really slow. If it hurts at all, no matter what anyone else tells you, it should not and he should back off. Just hold each other for awhile.

If it does not happen a specific night you have the rest of your lives to share this. He should (he better! ) understand.

You are both virgins and although you do kind of understand that this is special how special could it be to lose your virginity in a park or at your school? Just like I said earlier this is going to be something very special. Whomever you share this first time with will be someone you will never forget.

You will be marked by this person for the rest of your life and it can be something absolutely beautiful or something you will regret the rest of your life.Hmm... I am afraid I made this too long and you would have certainly lost interest so let me wrap this up. Regardless of your current relationship you have some serious thinking to do about your ex because of the strong feelings you still have for him. As he still has strong feelings you need to realize whether or not they are driven by sex/lust or a sincerely trial of a future with you.

Even though you know he loves you, you can let make love with him if he wants to have sex with you first. Imagine if things did not work out for you two but you did make love to him. Take all the pain you have ever felt and multiply it by 100 fold.

If things are to work out between you two the last thing that should happen is sex.As much as he is willing to "make love" with you this is not something that you need to share at this junction. I will leave the rest to you. I will pray for for you.

Kind regards, killxp P.S. You can reach me by email at spoudyal5@gmail. Com if you would like help in sorting out your feelings and express more personal ones that you would not be willing to on Mahalo. God bless.

I can understand the feeling to do it is very strong. You both are on the age that the desire is very high also you both are loving each other. But before you do it please consider.Is he your first love?

Love is something beautiful, it should be long lasting and not ended painful. Love that started before 20 is hard to survive to take you to the red carpet. Because teenagers are too immature about love.

They think love is a strong urge, it should be express rashly. But in fact, love need slow and continuous nurturing.So it can bloom beautifully like a flower. If you do sex with him now, I'm afraid you'll be sorry someday.

See, you said he broke you up, met a new girl and then want to back to your side and break up with her. How immature he is. Love is not like go to a fashion store, buy a dress and throw it away if you don't like it.

After you both understand what a love is, you both may do it.

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