My husband acts like a small child refusing responsibilities and even to look after himself. I feel so lonely in this marriage. Is there a chance for us?

It's been a while since you posted this question. Have you talked to your husband about your lonliness? Has there been any change?

Either get both of you into marriage counseling, or dump him before you're in the marriage so long that dividing your assets is going to be like separating conjoined twins. If he won't go into counseling, show him the door. Today.

However, it's probably wise to accept that marriage problems are generally a two-way street. Both parties need to act in good faith and be willing to work on the problems associated with putting lives together for a life-time. If there's no willingness, then call it quits now.

Don't prolong the inevitable.

To be quite honest and frank, it doesn't get better. If it were to get better he wouldn't make it worst to turn around and correct whatever he does that is wrong. We are talking about two adults here, at least that is what I want to believe.

When someone is responsible, productive, considerate, wants to help, wants to work as a team, all of the above, they DO JUST THAT! They won't make matters worst to then turn around and try to correct the mess they created. Things don't work like that, neither do concerned realistic people think that way.

Once you allow someone to get accustomed to something, if they are not responsible they will be wreckless and take advantage of the situation. Would you bring a pig from the pig pen and allow it to stay in your home. No....so if he is being a pig let him live like one until he grows up and behaves like the man he needs be.

Don't make excuses for your partner it doesn't do the situation any good. Before you know it you will be in so deep, it will be hard for you to find a way of getting out.

When me and my husband starting dating, it was so nice, and then all of the sudden he started acting like a jerk around me around his family. I told him he needed to quit that. I feel like now that we are married that he doesn't want to anything that I ask him to.

He thinks all he has to do is go to work, pay the higher bills, get on the computer try to make money, eat, and go to sleep. It makes me mad because we are fixing to have a baby and I feel like I can't get him to do anything. I told him this morning that I expect him to wash dishes and has he done it yet, no.So now I feel like I'm fixing to have two kids that I'm going to have to take care of and that's not fair to me at all.

Bozy, you aren't the only one, and trust me, things will get better because mine is still a working progress for the most part, so just be patient.

I felt the same way. I left my husband for a long time, like 6 months and was even with someone else. He begged me back promising things would change and he wouldn't be that way again.

After being back with him less than a month everything went back to the way it used to be. I don't understand men. They promise and promise but the promises are always lies.

Just stop. He will never take care of himself as long as you are there to do it for him. So stop cooking, picking up after him etc.Yes, the dishes may pile up, but eventually he will have to either step up or at least discuss it with you.

Have you seen the book the Love Dare?

It's tough out there to find an ideal spouse. Can't wait until Raytheon starts manufacturing cyborg companions to meet your needs. Who needs a needy human for a spouse when ya got a cyborg that interacts with you and GETS A CLUE?

Send him back to his mom unless your willing to be his new Mommy. Which I am sure you don't. Pack up his diapers and toys send him back home and find a man to be your partner in life.

If you begin to see the male as a dog he no longer will seem like a husband and treat him as a dog unless he begins to change.

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