My husband was cheating on me with his (girl) bf. affair has ended how do I get even with her? married 23yrs?

I think you should come clean so you two can have a fresh start. If you get married without telling him and he finds out later on it won't end well at all. Telling him before you get married gives you a better chance!

And I'm sure he loves you enough to forgive you. So good luck doll.

At the sake of sounding sarcastic, 'I' wouldn't be in that position in the first place so I can't honestly answer your question. Relationships are based on a solid foundation of trust and honesty, foundation and open communication, respect. Sounds like a tall order, but really if you don't have that then nothing else matters.

Everyone has their dealbreakers, some people give their partners second chances, and others don't. Each to their own and that's ok. For me personally, cheating is a dealbreaker, so if you were going to have so little respect for me or our relationship that you couldn't be loyal, you'd be on the first train out and absolutely no room for wedding plans.

I always knew this in theory, but when it happened to me it was just confirmed in my heart what I already knew was an atrocious lack of respect for me and for us. Hell, I called off my wedding 3 weeks before the date. Do your partner- I use the term loosely, since partner implies there is some display of respect on your part - a favour and call off the wedding.

You shouldn't have cheated on your partner in the first place. Then you say 'I plan on ending it now' - everyone says that- I'm going to leave her, I'm going to fix this, I won't do it again, I'm sorry, it won't happen again, I didn't mean to, it was just the one time, it didn't mean anything, I love you bla di bla di bla. Grow up and stay single for a while and learn about respecting yourself so you can learn to respect other people.

Not fair to take that huge baggage into your next relationship. And do your now ex a favour and tell them to get tested for STDs since you've also put their health at risk by hopping into bed with a stranger who has been God knows where.

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