My wife is expecting and she is excited. The baby girls are due on November 19th, 2010 and we are excited. But?

You say part of your answer that she didn't want it to be this soon. Most couples to me anyway need that first honeymoon year. You should have discussed timing and used some form of protection.

Thinking of and being pregnant is two different things. First, she will hear all the horror stores of how people were in labor for three days. Horsefeathers.

I delivered within an hour of getting to hospital. Once pg, the tremendous responsibility of having a child sets in, a baby does not stay a baby and they do not always smell like baby powder and look like an angel. In reality, it's more like spit up and poop.

You have not had time to learn to be a couple, much less parents and as you say she is going thru multiple hormone changes. Se is definitely not happy about the pregnancy and if the truth be known, does not even want to be pregnant. Because of the age difference, she may have felt pressured to go ahead and have a child, just felt that way, not that you did pressure her.

Pet her, pamper her, baby her, make her feel like she is the most beautiful, sexiest woman in the world, concentrate on her and say very little about the baby. Give her her honeymoon time. Bubble baths, foot soaks as feet tend to swell sometimes) and if they do help her elevate feet and rest, and buy or she some of the cream that prevents stretch marks (and this is just the way it is to me anyway-I'm older and learned to just tell it like it is) and give her tummy and breasts a good massage with the cream that prevents stretch marks--act dumb if you have to like so and so said you have to use this---- (baby will love this and may begin to move around and this can be a bonding time for both of you), not that you are worried about stretch marks, she may be, just tell her you want to help her with pregnancy, When she does have to go and buy maternity clothes, if you are the type and this wouldn't be obvious, go with her, tell her which outfits match her eyes, which make her look like a "hot mama", etc.,but don't over do so it will be obvious and continue this after baby comes.

There will be lots of changes, when she has to get up during the night, get up with her. When she does talk about the baby, just listen, don't say anything unless she asks, let her feelings come out. Many women worry about their figures and sexual desires after being pregnant.

Give her lots of reassurance. Buy her flowers on your anniversary date you met, like date you met or date you proposed, buy her a special necklace to celebrate that occasion, then when she has the baby buy her some type ring with an emerald, ruby, opal in it (whatever you can afford) and tell her how wonderful she is and that you know she will be the best mother in the world and that you thank her for having your child. She needs reassurance and lots of it.

Plus, she may be just plain old scared.

Its because she might be feeling that, its because to have a child, you married her. Its not she who is important anymore, she is important just because she has a child inside, who is most hopefully the next generation to this family...etc etc. If she is that reluctant, then you have to make her feel, that in the excitement of your marriage you wanted to be a father as a flow. This is because, if not, she would continue to think on those lines and get even more depressed.

For you it was only a matter of excitement, but for her, the entire surrounding has already changed in totality, before even getting accustomed to it, again a new thing has come up, which only demands responsibility for ever. You can try to inform about another thing, which is the age factor. This is the ideal age to have kids, things would go more complicated if you wait that longer.

Finally is it acceptable to her to terminate this pregnancy? Would she feel good about it? Even if it has occurred accidentally, isn't it both of your responsibility to let that little thing grow in you and become a part of the family?

What is wrong in it even if people are identifying her as the mother of her child more than a social individual entity? Nobody is stopping her from being "social", rather people will accept her more as a complete personality, which otherwise would have changed anyway, after some time. Finally, you have to be with her even after the child is born, you have to nurse her a lot to bring her out of this depression and make her believe that you still love her.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.