My wife is negative about everything, we accidently got pregnant this will be our second child, we were planing on have?

She says our children would be to close together, she says she didn’t want 2 babies in diapers, I know it will be hard, But I just know everything will work out. She is also up set that the baby will be born 2 weeks before my sisters wedding which is a crossed the country which means we’ll have to take the baby on a air plain or she will have to stay here. I know this isn’t ideal but its not the end of the world Alex09 1 month ago .

We had a fight last night, I tried to comfort her and tell her everything was going to be ok, that we would figure out how to make this work, But she just started yelling at me, saying to take off my rose colored glasses that the world isn’t as positive as I think it is. Then I yelled back at her “If you see everything as so negative then your never going to be happy” believe it or not I have never yelled at her in the 3 years we been together. She looked like I had hit her or something, she started crying again and she just looked at the floor and then she went to bed.

What do I do? Alex09 1 month ago .

Too bad you didn't finish your question. (details) People usually come in two varities those that see the glass half full and those who see it half empty. Most times oppisites attract.

Good luck with the new baby.

Sorry didn't have enough room but the rest is in the comment on Schelli's question Alex09 1 month ago .

Ok. Well many times it is nice to have two children close in age. They will be very close and playmates to each other.

After the first couple of years which is the most trying she will probably be happy she had them so close. Maybe your wife is just having an attack of hormones. You are correct, it will all work out.

Just think of all those women out there who would love to get pregnant but can't. They would die to be in her shoes.

My two grandchildren are not quite two years apart. The begining was tough for my daughter but now they are four and just turned 6. They play nice together and are such good friends.

She also has a two year old. He was not planned but my daughter who was upset at the time is now happy about it. Take what God gives you.

Hard times like this recession have a tendency to produce a lot of negativity -- and especially so when you have a child and one on the way. Still, if you love each you'll weather this rough patch you're going through. Chin up!

Every child is a gift. And maybe it will be a tight squeeze. But there maybe another reason for her reaction.

I knew a young lady who burst out crying when the doctor told her that she was pregnant. The doctor at first could not understand why. Of course the husband was happy.

Finally she said why she cried. She did not want to go through another rough time. She did not want to go through any more labor pains.

This was something she felt that her husband would not understand. I guess they did not think about birth control or talk about how she felt about the possibilty of her wanting another child. It sounds like a lack of communication.

And she sounds a little angry that she will be having the labor pains while he doesn't feel a thing. This kind of reaction happens sometimes. The husband see it in a positive light while the wife maybe scared out of her mind.

And there was no communication from either person. There are no details to explain if her first pregnancy was easy or rough for her. Not all pregnant women have a easy pregnancy which men have no idea about how rough it can be.

And her husband may not realize that this could be the reason for her reaction. And it could be the reason why she is not ready for another baby.

Tell her that if young mothers out there can support 2 young children, a married couple with jobs can do it. Now if she yells at you, what does she expect YOU to do? If my fiance raises his voice at me, I'm gonna raise my voice back out of defense.

Your wife honestly needs to grow up and realize that there are so many people out there who aren't able to have children. She needs to embrace this opportunity she has.

Please don't blame the li'l tyke; it's not her fault; she did nothing wrong. If you can't afford the child now, let someone else adopt her. Really, the "Every child a wanted child" is the dumbest thing I've ever heard because every child already IS a wanted child, even if not by the child's own parents.

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