No one has ever loved me. I feel as if I have all the right qualities though?

When I was in high school, I was horribly shy and was not the prettiest girl around. I was more of the ugly duckling that turned into the swan after I went to college. When I got to college, I had very low self esteem because I felt like no one wanted me and that I would never be loved.

When a guy wanted to date me, I was flattered and immediatly said yes. He soon asked me to marry him. There were warning signs, but I said yes anyways because I had waited so long for love and was afraid that if I turned him down, that no one would ever love me again.

That was a mistake that nearly cost me my life as he was very abusive and had fed off the fact that he knew I thought no one would ever love me. I divorced him in 2005. I was so scared to be alone because I immediately thought I would be single for the rest of my life.

I am a smart, funny, good looking woman who is a hard worker and after my divorce was a single mom working two jobs, going to college full time, and had no child support. I could not figure out what was wrong with me because I kept attracting the wrong type of guys, usually married (pigs! ).

I quit dating and swore to be alone because it was better than imagining my life with being cheated on all of the time. I heard the same thing as you, that I was too sweet, too trusting, too much of a good friend, too yada yada ya...... All while I watched all of my friends with someone all of the time, or friends who could get a new boyfriend every other week if they wanted to. As soon as I quit caring and just did my own thing, I got the suprise of my life.My car broke down and I took it to a local mechanic.

I walked in and saw the owner and was blown away by how hot he was. I reminded myself that I was not looking and forced myself to pretend that I did not even notice him, but definitly went home that night and dreamed..lol. Two days later he called and asked me to a movie.

Two months later he asked me to marry him. We are very, very happily married for a year and a half now. And he swears there is nothing wrong with me!

Lol. There is nothing wrong with you, either. Sometimes you just need to learn to be content with who you are and learn to truly enjoy being single.

Guys are actually attracted to that. They are very perceptive at seeing which girls really need to be wanted and there are some guys who will really take advantage of that so be careful. Wanting to be loved and then finding someone who loves you will put blinders on you for the first little while because it just feels so good to have someone there.

Be really careful though. You will find someone when the time is right, and you are least expecting it.Be sure to hold out for someone who deserves a smart, pretty, hard working girl like you. If you think you are a good catch, then there is a guy out there who will think you are a wonderful catch.

It took me 33 years to find the love of my life.

I know that you see lots of people dating around you but you're in college. Don't feel bad that you're surrounded by other academics - meaning those who want to focus on their education instead of using the campus as a dating service. You ARE attracting the right people, people just like you that you'll have wonderful relationships with.

When the time is right and school isn't the focus you'll have wonderful acquaintances and contacts for years to come. From those a more serious interest may develop but don't let that distract you from your education. Enjoy the relaxed and comfortable atmosphere that you create.

There's time enough for relationship drama and people parting ways after school is out or they continue on in other colleges. There's not a thing wrong with you except that you're equating relationship attention with self esteem. You might be at a time in your education where having a little personal validation will help you feel more confident.

More assured in your choices about the future. Don't be afraid. You're doing a great job.

Your grades and degrees are your reward right now. You HAVE good friends that enjoy you. Not everyone can say the same.

If you can survive the lean times the rewards will be all the greater. You'll not only be able to bring more to a relationship and your future family but you'll have done it with no strings or complications that those people around you that are dating run into a lot. Stop for a moment and watch those people dating sometime but take off the rose colored, dreamy glasses and watch them for real.

Having their studies and each other (and in some cases children) dividing their attention it's much harder for them. Relationships rarely work out as we imagine them to. People are real and have complications that can't be predicted.

I can't say it enough. Have your friends. Enjoy them.Relax.

Focus on school and being the best person you can be. Upright, honest, with integrity and honor. You're a beacon for perfection and grace.

Let the right man find you. There's plenty of time. :).

I had the same thing, not a single girl liked me till begin 2009 (when I was 18) but didn't go well, both didn't give me the love I deserve, so I say to you.

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