Ramadan:My hijabi sisters/brothers even?

Salam (peace). Your husband is doing wrong upon himself, and upon you aswel, by his deviant life ways. I will pray that he returns to Islam.

As for you: I invite you to accept Islam as the way of life , and beseech upon God with utmost sincerity and conviction ,and seek His help in all life matters. Indeed His Help is near. I would request you sister, to be patient and keep doing good upon your husband , by making him recall and ponder over the purpose of his life and help him change his lifestyle: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U4i-8XwCK... I would further request you to visit the local masaajid (plural of mosque), and seek help and guidance from the local muslim female community and seek for any muslim social networks , which might assist you in your life matters.

Furthermore, I would request you to seek counsel with some knowledgeable sisters on YA section: Rosy Pearl: http://answers.yahoo.com/activity?show=G... Deedlina: http://answers.yahoo.com/activity?show=z... If none of them contact you back, I'll share my email ID for your future reference/correspondence in any life/religious matters: [email protected]. Sister, I request you to please read this response from an Islamic scholar , to a lady who faced a situation similar to yours: http://www.islamweb.net/emainpage/index.php?page=showfatwa&Option=FatwaId&Id=91903.

It looks like he is changing only for the worse. Sounds like he is exploring his freedom. Don't make any rash deciions.

It's good that you are attending mosque and have an interest in Islam but make sure you are doing this for yourself not for him. When you learn more n more about Islam you will find yourself thinking differently on your perspective of what life really is about and how a Muslim should behave. There are lots of Muslim men out there who are like your husband sadly.

If I was in your shoes to be honest I would not stay with him, even though you love him.. Men like this don't change. U sound like a lovely girl,someone who deserves to be treated with respect etc. it's upto you how you deal with this, you need to talk to him and ask him directly what he. Wants.. If he wants to make the marriage work or not.

He is 24,men at that age these days are not ready for marriage..unless he was mature and took responsibility he would not go out drinking and seeing other women. I would not want to stay with a man who showed interest in other women. He might find you controlling etc.. But I think you are just the backbone in the relationship, trying to keep things together etc. Concentrate on your life for now.. Learning about Islam n stuff.

Time apart might be just what you guys need. I hope things do work out because like you said he did not drink before etc.. So it might just be a phase, I hope he does come out of it though. Pray to Allah and ask him for help.. To help him to change.

If you want to Talk with me email me on here n i'll add you in messenger if you want.

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