Because if the two sexes celebrate separated, there really is nothing more but eating to do.
Sounds like you are somewhat paranoid She Said. I've been to a muslim wedding and it was fantastic - food was fabulous and plentiful but nobody actually forced it down my throat. I've also been to an Irish wedding where, not surprisingly, everyone seemed to get horribly drunk, particularly the women.
And, of course, there are northern weddings attended by those unwashed, working class, uneducated, common, northern types who consume vast amounts of pie, peas and brown ale. Hopefully you will realise that I am saying that all weddings, of whatever type, will range from being pretty crummy to rather elaborate affairs.
I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.