Should I let my baby cry or pick him up anytime he cries?

It seems that many people have the opinion that you should just let a baby cry so that it will make them more independent. However, there have been several medical studies from institutions like Yale University, Baylor University, Duke University, Harvard Medical School, UCLA School of Medicine and Arizona State University that say otherwise. By in large, these studies demonstrate that infants who are allowed to cry for extended periods of time suffer detrimental physiologic effects, chemical imbalances as well as a decline in intellectual and emotional growth.

Some findings from the studies are the following: - 10 times more likely to develop Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) - Elevated levels of cortisol, a stress hormone, are released when a baby cries for a prolonged time. - One study showed a 9 point IQ deficit caused by extended crying during the initial 3 months. - The infant will be more likely to be aggressive, fussier and unattached.

- Excessive crying can disrupt sleep patterns and create temperature fluctuations. At the American Academy of Pediatrics, Dr. Michael Lewis stated that “the single most important influence of a child’s intellectual development is the responsiveness of the mother to the cues of her baby. €?.

If he's not hurt or giving you the hungry cry or the poopy cry let him be. He is just crying to be cuddled. You can have time to hold him when you want but you can't stop everything you do for him.

He will learn to stop.

This is a great question. You are not alone in wondering about the right thing to do. I remember (kidding) with my spouse about our children when they were infants and crying, saying to him, "why does she have to be such a baby all the time!"

All kidding aside, as a parent, it can feel like a baby is crying all the time, especially when they are newborns. In fact during the first three months, on average, a newborn cries three hours a day. Some babies that experience colic; which can cause a baby to be irritable, cry much more.

I'm not a nurse or doctor, so If you haven't already, please consult your pediatrician, to rule out any possible medical reasons for your son's crying. Assuming he is perfectly healthy, it may be that he is just more comfortable being closer to you. If his crying stops when you pick him up and he's still under three months, this can be perfectly normal.

There are some great products that can help parents provide babies with the closeness they crave and give you the flexibility you want to stay active and do what you need to do during the day. Baby Bjorns or other slings and wraps let you carry your but keep your hands free. Other methods include swaddling (see video), which can help younger babies feel secure and calm.

Ultimately it's your choice. What works for you and your baby will be best. Some recent trends are to "let the baby be your guide" in determining how long to let him cry before you pick him up.

You may find that if you give him a few minutes (between 5 or 10) to cry a little, he may become content. As he grows his crying should lessen overall. Good luck.

That face can really break ones’ heart. I kind of agree with your husband to an extent. This is because I used to have the same problem with my daughter.

Any time she cries, I pick her up, a little whine, and I am all over her. She got so used to all the extra attention that it became very difficult to do any chore whenever she was awake. I actually used to pray that she takes a nap.

But the reason why I would not fully agree with him is that, sometimes your baby really needs you attention and needs to feel your warmth. My daughter used to smile in a funny way anytime I pick her up, now that she is 21 months ,I now understand that the smile is a sign of satisfaction and a way of saying ‘’I won , again’’.

Very cute photo! It looks like he’s really mad at you. Back when my son was that age, he was a grumpy mutt too and I never could get anything done either.

After I went back to work and I came home at night, he was even worse and didn’t want to go down at night. I had always heard (and my mom said this too) to let him cry it out. That he would cry himself to sleep and if I kept going in there when he cried after I put him down, he would keep doing that.

If I let him cry, he would figure it out and go to sleep. Nowadays, I am hearing a different story that a parent shouldn’t let them cry at night. Even during the day, if they cry you should come to their aid.

I still feel that I did the right thing. If he was crying and he wasn’t hurt, didn’t fill his pants, or wasn’t hungry, I let him cry it out at night. During the day, if he wouldn’t settle while I was trying to do something, I would try to find a toy he liked to see if he could become interested in something besides me all the time.

Good luck!

It seems that many people have the opinion that you should just let a baby cry so that it will make them more independent. However, there have been several medical studies from institutions like Yale University, Baylor University, Duke University, Harvard Medical School, UCLA School of Medicine and Arizona State University that say otherwise. By in large, these studies demonstrate that infants who are allowed to cry for extended periods of time suffer detrimental physiologic effects, chemical imbalances as well as a decline in intellectual and emotional growth.

Some findings from the studies are the following: - 10 times more likely to develop Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) - Elevated levels of cortisol, a stress hormone, are released when a baby cries for a prolonged time. - One study showed a 9 point IQ deficit caused by extended crying during the initial 3 months. - The infant will be more likely to be aggressive, fussier and unattached.

- Excessive crying can disrupt sleep patterns and create temperature fluctuations. At the American Academy of Pediatrics, Dr. Michael Lewis stated that “the single most important influence of a child’s intellectual development is the responsiveness of the mother to the cues of her baby.

The pros say that you should attend to your child as soon as you can if they are crying. The argument comes in if you should come to the rescue for every situation. Obviously if a kid bumps his head, you have to rush in.

However, if the baby's hungry and you judge him as being ok for another few minutes, then that may not require you to quell the crying. As a parent you probably have already decoded the difference in cries. I am not a parent, but when a baby lets out certain cries, you feel like you can do nothing but come to their aid.

I hope you can discover what situations need your attention.

This is a great question. You are not alone in wondering about the right thing to do. I remember (kidding) with my spouse about our children when they were infants and crying, saying to him, "why does she have to be such a baby all the time!

" All kidding aside, as a parent, it can feel like a baby is crying all the time, especially when they are newborns. In fact during the first three months, on average, a newborn cries three hours a day. Some babies that experience colic; which can cause a baby to be irritable, cry much more.

I'm not a nurse or doctor, so If you haven't already, please consult your pediatrician, to rule out any possible medical reasons for your son's crying. Assuming he is perfectly healthy, it may be that he is just more comfortable being closer to you. If his crying stops when you pick him up and he's still under three months, this can be perfectly normal.

There are some great products that can help parents provide babies with the closeness they crave and give you the flexibility you want to stay active and do what you need to do during the day. Baby Bjorns or other slings and wraps let you carry your but keep your hands free. Other methods include swaddling (see video), which can help younger babies feel secure and calm.

Ultimately it's your choice. What works for you and your baby will be best. Some recent trends are to "let the baby be your guide" in determining how long to let him cry before you pick him up.

You may find that if you give him a few minutes (between 5 or 10) to cry a little, he may become content. As he grows his crying should lessen overall. Good luck.

That face can really break ones’ heart. I kind of agree with your husband to an extent. This is because I used to have the same problem with my daughter.

Any time she cries, I pick her up, a little whine, and I am all over her. She got so used to all the extra attention that it became very difficult to do any chore whenever she was awake. I actually used to pray that she takes a nap.

But the reason why I would not fully agree with him is that, sometimes your baby really needs you attention and needs to feel your warmth. My daughter used to smile in a funny way anytime I pick her up, now that she is 21 months ,I now understand that the smile is a sign of satisfaction and a way of saying ‘’I won , again’’.

Very cute photo! It looks like he’s really mad at you. Back when my son was that age, he was a grumpy mutt too and I never could get anything done either.

After I went back to work and I came home at night, he was even worse and didn’t want to go down at night. I had always heard (and my mom said this too) to let him cry it out. That he would cry himself to sleep and if I kept going in there when he cried after I put him down, he would keep doing that.

If I let him cry, he would figure it out and go to sleep. Nowadays, I am hearing a different story that a parent shouldn’t let them cry at night. Even during the day, if they cry you should come to their aid.

I still feel that I did the right thing. If he was crying and he wasn’t hurt, didn’t fill his pants, or wasn’t hungry, I let him cry it out at night. During the day, if he wouldn’t settle while I was trying to do something, I would try to find a toy he liked to see if he could become interested in something besides me all the time.

Good luck!

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