Some self help advice would be appreciated here.Please read details?

Some self help advice would be appreciated here. Please read details. Upon some introspection,I've discovered that I have a bit of a superiority complex(say it ain't so).

I attribute this to several things(just to give some background). I'm a former champion power lifter for USA Power Lifting. I have an IQ of 139,makes me somewhat intolerant of "stupidity".

A master carpenter working on multi million dollar homes for over 20 years. An accomplished musician(23 years) and guitar teacher for 18 years. What can I do to stop myself judging people for trivial things?

Sorry if it sounds like bragging,I felt the need to give some possible contributing factors. Asked by BrainBuilder_is_gone 59 months ago Similar questions: help advice appreciated read details Science > Psychology.

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Change your mindset and how you interact with people I too am a very intelligent and creative person. I completely understand how you can feel the way you do. What I have learned over the years is to appreciate the fact that you were given a huge gift in your intelligence.

Most people do not have this gift. Life is more difficult for them because of this deficiency. Brains are kind of like currency.

You were born with a silver spoon in your mouth, figuratively, when it comes to intellect. It is a gift, chance, luck, providence....what ever you want to believe. So, if you consider that this gift is yours by luck or chance and not your "due", than you can move on to having more patience and understanding with those who are numb skulls.It is hard to change behavior, but it is possible when one steps back, takes a deep breath and utilizes ones superior brain to explain how to do something your way without hurting a lesser souls feelings or creating a hostile environment.

Essentially, if you are so smart, you should be able to think of ways to get things done and/or interact with people of lesser intelligence without causing ill feelings or violence. Your intelligence is a gift, so appreciate it as such and have compassion for those who aren't so fortunate..

You have taken the first step by acknowledging that you think you have a problem. I am by no means a psychology major, but it is definitely something that will have to start with you. You have taken the first step by acknowledging that you think you have a problem.

We can’t expect that everyone will be able to live up to the same expectations to which we hold ourselves accountable. I wish it was as easy as saying "All you need to do is...." but really it is not. It is something that you have to try hard to change in yourself.

I can understand what you are saying because I often feel the same way: I know what I am capable of doing, and I know what I expect of myself. And it can be frustrating for me to associate with people who have a different style than mine, because, of course, my way is better. One thing that I would recommend to you is that you really think things through before you act, and that is not always easy.

Maybe you may need to act less on emotion and more on reason. When faced with a decision to make, really think about what the consequences might be for each of your options. Is it worth your time and effort to try and change something or someone if that person or thing does not want to change?

Maybe it will be better if you just do not say or do anything. Often people will learn better from their own mistakes, than if someone else is always telling them the way to do it. If you feel like you must say something, then try to word it as tactfully as possible, and give an explanation for why you feel the way you feel.

For a very simple example, look at these two statements: 1) "That is the worst idea I have ever heard. It will be much better if we do it this way. " 2) "That is certainly an interesting idea.

Let’s write down both of our ideas and then we can list the pros and cons of each of them to see which one would be better. " Maybe the idea was terrible either way, but by acknowledging that there was another idea than yours, and then letting reasoning take over, the better idea should become visible to all once the pros and cons are listed. I know, it sounds kind of cheesy; but it does work most of the time.It is a little difficult to specifically answer a question like this that is such a wide-open topic.

Really, you might get some good advice from people who know more about your and your personality. Find someone whom you respect and ask them for their opinion. But keep in mind that you’ll need to be able to listen to constructive criticism without getting defensive.

You shouldn’t ask for advice and then get mad when people give it to you - not that you would do that; (which kind of relates back to your other question about your answer getting marked wrong because the person didn’t like it. ) It seems like you are willing to listen, so maybe this question will be the first step in making a change for the better for you. I hope that helps.

Sources: my experience .

Help first thing I would do is put yourself in the other person shoes before you say anything, and think ohh if someone told me "this"(something bad,mean) how would it make me feel. I have never understood why some people tend to wanna degrade other people because of things. Think of your self with the disability or someone in your family, wife or kid and think if you would want them to get hurt in that way.... Sources: my thoughts .

OK, yu have some strong points - but chains do break when the weakest link fails And the strongest points are not that important. The real test is how well you manage to fit into your environment, make links with aothers around you, and have some sense of satisfaction with your progress in life. Are you happy?

Are people around you happy? Do people seek out your conversation and advice? Do you play music for friends and the public?

If so, they you can give yourself a good grade. If not, then you have work to do. Take one person you are judging and look at them in a new light.

Consider their family and how proud their parents / others are of them. They started as a child and have arrived at some level of achievement. Be happy for their progress.

If you can help them do better, then perhaps there is an opportunity to do good. But you have to be careful to let them ask. If the fault is too much bother, stay away from them for a while.

Ask why it bothers you for them to have this fault, but not for others to have it. This may take some work, but the question is "what to do to stop judging people for trivial things? " I suggest that you need to either see them as trivial and let it go or perhaps you have a problem to solve if they are not trivial after all.

The trick is to sort out trivial from important. I have my own brag list and when in doubt I also trot it out. But I know I also have faults and they have not much in connection with my list.

I still have to live in the same world that you live in. And it is a tough place to operate.

I don't think it's a superiority complex, to be honest You have put the effort into everything you to so that you could come out on top, I don't think there is anything wrong with you expecting others to do the same. Laziness is rampant and disdain towards it is A GOOD THING! If more people were horrified by the ineptitude of the great majority of the populace the world would be a much better place - if people took the time to stop whining and complaining about how bad their lives are and isntead put the effort into making them better we would all benefit.

The problem is not you, the problem is that you're surrounded by lazy morons. I wish more people thought like you and I... but they don't. I've found putting up with it is a lot less stressful than worrying about it, but sometimes it's hard :)I hope Prettyface answers, she's perfect at everything she does too ;) Sources: My opinion .

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