Sorry its a long one - Boyfriend and life in general - advice would be good?

Christine, stop feeling guilty about your feelings. No, you are NOT stuck up. You've already admitted that you love him and everything about him and you're RIGHT to have doubts when it comes to a man's ability to provide.

I mean, if you didn't then I would be really worried about you. No matter what anyone else tells you, love ain't free, love costs money! You will have a family one day and you can't be with a man that's unambitious.

Houses cost money, cars cost money, weddings cost money, kids cost money so don't be afraid to wonder "where's the fu*king money at?" Now, my 17 year old son sounds a lot like your guy. He's the sweetest dude ever, worships his girlfriend, gives her whatever she asks for, would drain all the blood from his body for his girl if that's what it took.

Well, it doesn't really take all that. It takes a decent paying job and a basic education. The fact that you say your guy is ambitious makes me feel good about him.

Some guys talk a good game but when it comes down to it, they're too fu*king lazy to apply themselves and make the necessary sacrifices i.e. Put the Xbox controller down, cut the TV off, stay in for the weekend and study, etc. You get what I'm saying. Success is 50% ambition and 50% determination.

Oh, nothing there about being smart, huh? Right, you don't need to be "smart" because trust me, it's optional. I believe your guy has what it takes but probably, like my son, needs to brush up on his basic education skills i.e.

Basic math and basic reading because youll be surprised that kids are graduating from high school and barely know how to multiply and/or read... I work with my son every night at the dining room table because I know what's waiting for him in the working world. You have to READ and WRITE. Now what you can do to help him?

You've got to somwhow find out the areas of his testing that is giving him the most problem. Can you help him study? Will he let you help him?

Maybe it's his math that sucks or his writing skills that suck. Maybe his reading comprehension sucks and he needs practice or help understanding what a certain paragraph is asking of him. My son is a junior in Highschool and reads on a 8th grader's level and that's AFTER I've been working with him.

No, he's not stupid but he had a troubled yourth with his mom and now I have him but I didn't get him until the 6th grade. Anyway, he might need adult education to work with him on his weak pionts before he takes his paramedic course. By the way, I'm a registered nurse and I ain't the smartest person you've ever met either.

It don't take smarts, it takes determination and ambition. If he never gives up then he WILL become a paramedic. I guarantee it.

You can sue me if I'm wrong. Stick with your guy but you've got to stop assuming he can do this alone. HE CAN'T.

He needs you. You motivate him and you're his reason for not giving up. Help him.

That's what wives do for their husbands. Didn't you know?

Negativity only makes things. He's only 21, it's never to late to get those qualifications and experience if it's desired and really wanted. Talk to him about the routes he's going to be doing, he surely must have an idea of the route he's going to do already.

If he needs help, why don't you maybe help him? Encourage him to study and remember more and make sure he does it.

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