Step dads cheating on mom?

This is really hard for you as a kid to be aware of all this that's going on, but the way you're approaching things won't fix anything. 1) In spite of the fact that your dad gave out his password, you're being a snoop to use it. Whether or not a person is trustworthy is a separate issue from whether you're invading someone's privacy.

You're invading your dad's privacy, period. You are wrong to do this. I know my husband's email and other passwords, but I've never once even thought about accessing his personal accounts.

I even avert my eyes from his computer screen unless he specifically refers to it. This is 100% purely out of respect for his privacy and because I trust him. You spying on your dad is disrespectful.

And no, I'm not defending your dad's actions. I'm just saying you need to acknowledge your OWN misbehavior first. 2) By the sound of it, your dad is flirting but hasn't gotten involved physically in any way with this woman.

Whether that's considered cheating or not is up to individual couples to decide for themselves. But it could be worse. 3) Whatever is going on between your dad and this woman, it also involves your mom but NOT you.

I know that if your parents fight or if they divorced, obviously that would *affect* you, but the bottom line is that this is THEIR relationship, not yours. 4) In line with the point that this is THEIR relationship, you need to realize that practically no one even thinks about cheating when their relationships are in great health. If your dad is willing to consider cheating, or if he is leading this woman on in some inappropriate conversations, it's fair sign that he's missing something in his current relationship.

Maybe your mom and dad were *already* having problems, and THEN this lady starts talking nice to him. Makes it hard to resist being friendly back. That's actually the most likely scenario.

Basic point being here that your mom and dad were probably not on solid ground in their marriage in the first place for this to even be possible, so it's not 100% fair to only blame him. She has her own part in a marriage that isn't completely solid, you know. So overall... There's not much you CAN do or SHOULD do, and I know it sucks for you, but you should essentially butt out.

Since that's hard to do, you CAN at least voice your own opinions. It could go like this: "Dad, I'm sorry for spying on you, but I'm really upset and pissed off by what I discovered. I want you and Mom to work things out and have a happy marriage again for us kids."

Period. Walk away.

I may not be of any help, but you could try talking to your dad again... Who knows, maybe he doesn't like the things that she is saying. What I would do is keep quite and not tell your mom, but check and see how long this comunication between your dad and that woman lasts for, then if it lasts a long time then tell your mom cause I think that might be a problem, im srry I wish I was better help:/ Aubrey<3.

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