Suppose two Gay friends or two Lesbian friends went out to the Club looking for a hook-up......?

If it is friends of yours why haven't you just told them to back off & that you are not into the "club scene". Not all Gay men much less all Gay people are into the "bar scene". When I was in my youth I went a few times just to go dancing when I was in the mood but didn't make a habit of it like some of my other friends did.

There were others like me that also weren't. But we weren't guided or "pressured" to go that route because we didn't listen to them. Maybe you should dot he same.

Continue to do what your doing by staying involved in the activities & hobbies that interest you. I would suggest you try to expand by seeking out others Gays that have similar interests like you either by posting an ad in your local Gay paper or magazine or for that matter by doing a web search. I will bet you that there are other gay men who do the same activities or even have clubs.

Why limit yourself by only doing it with your straight friends. Like I say expand your horizons. Focus on your own Youth & not what others think your youth should be.

Good luck to you.

You don't need to vgo to clubs, as you rightly say by doing activities you enjoy you are likely to meet guys who enjoy the same things as you :) However I personally enjoy clubs, its nice to be able to hang out in a place where everyone around you is gay, and it's nice to go out with a group of friends and have a bit of fun, it doesn't have to be about picking up random guys I go just to spend time with my gay friends. In my experience there's all types of gays at bars and clubs though, including athletic looking types :) Overall it's your life so you should feel free to do what you want, but don't knock things until you've tried them either, you never know what you might miss out on.

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