The Big News"! Men find insecure women more attractive than secure women. Do you agree?

I think it is reasonable to conclude that a man would feel that he could more easily manipulate an insecure woman than a secure one. That may make here attractive in the sense that she is easy prey but not necessarily more attractive in a physical sense. We nornally see people before we get to know them and it is not always apparent whether a person is secure or not based on just visual appearance.So in that light, I don't know that the attraction that you speak of is as much a visual sense as it it a conclusion made after meeting the person.

There are many secure women who desire to meet men just as much as any insecure one might. The difference is the secure one may know better where the line is that she does not want or need to cross. That means she will require more time and effort to attempt to manipulate so some guys just go, "I'll pass".

From my perspective, if a woman is attractive, whether she is secure or insecure is not of importance...although I perfer secure. WB.

I disagree. Women are exactly the same as men in this respect. The weak prey on the insecure.

The confident seek out the confident. That being said, I think many young women are very insecure. But they aren't born that way.

Little girls in society have been taught from an early age (by parents, school, and TV) to believe that they are idiots. Some fall for it while others are immune. The magazines, novels, and TV for women are stupid and subconsciously make women feel stupid.

I have noticed an ugly backlash over the past decade or so in the form of unabashed narcissism by both sexes that is equally as irritating--mostly because narcissism is only a mask for insecurity. I have two daughters (with a third on the way) and I lay the same expectations on them as I do my son: to have self-respect and confidence.

I disagree. Men do not find insecure women more attractive, they find them more vulnerable, the perfect prey to be used, abused, and dominated. So, no, men do not find insecure women attractive; predators do.

I think most men will say that they do not prefer insecure women but if you don't come off a little insecure then they aren't interested. I think guys just like a challenge. They want to feel they are adding something to your life and if you are too confident and self assured then they do not see what they can add.

But that doesn't mean they want a total basket case either. Of course, everyone is an individual so there are guys out there that feel different ways to different degrees.

I agree. Most men are too insecure themselves to be comfortable around a strong, secure woman. Those men are fools, by the way.

I am inclined to believe that men can control a woman who is more insecure about things. I have found a lot of guys are allergic to strong-minded independent women who are able to take care of themselves. Then there are men who today are finding their place undermined in society as women are opting less for marriage, or children - in favor of a career and a paycheck - and independence.So I sympathise with lots of men as they are finding their role a wee bit uncertain, and as culture changes, and traditions change and give way to new trends, men have to become different role models to attract women.

Women still want men who are strong and protective and who are honest and with good prospects. Women think about things like that. Insecure can also mean young and inexperienced - or living a protected life or under-realised or under-fulfilled.

A great question!

Not me. I find self-confident women attractive. I think, if a man himself is insecure, it could be true.

Some, not all, men find insecure women more attractive because some have the desire to feel superior in some ways to women. With an insecure woman, he can feed upon her insecurities, and in a way become her protector, or some other role where he can show that she needs him. --ladyhowto4u.

I personally would rather have, and am more attracted to, women that are secure. I've dated insecure women and it almost always ended badly.In the better cases they became secure during the relationship and we ended up parting as better people but more likely it was just a game of how long we'd let the drama build before it boiled over into a disaster.

Good question. I myself am somewhat insecure, so I prefer someone self-confident and secure. :-).

I think the study is using words that don't necessarily explain the phenomena. Men like to feel strong and powerful in the eyes of women. They want to feel needed.It's really a biological thing.

If a man feels like the big strong protector he will feel more confident in himself; thus, he will feel more attracted to the woman who makes him feel that way. Now, that isn't to say that men like to hang around clingy, needy women. Men probably like women they feel are self-contained and live their lives gracefully, but they don't want to be with women who don't need them.

This is the stigma of our age. Women no longer really need men for anything except to have them around and donate sperm, and this isn't enough for men. The best thing a self-confident, self-contained, independent modern woman can do is pretend she really needs the guy she's in love with.

Let him open the door (because doors are just so darn heavy). Let him pay for lunch. Its sounds kind of anti-feminist, but these little gestures mean a lot to guys.

Women have pretty much upgraded out the need for men, the least we can do is throw them a bone.

Not necessarily! I would much rather talk to a women who is secure with herself than one who is not. No more questions such as "Does this make me look fat?".

If a man chooses to talk to a women it is because there is something about her that he finds attractive. Now there is a wide variety of attracters, but the most "popular" of these is appearance. Personally, I like a women who carries herself well.

She doesn't regret the choices she has made in life and is overall happy with where life has taken her.

Definitely an interesting question. I would agree with what's already been said. If the man is insecure then he will be attracted to a more insecure woman.

@Old Empresario is definitely right when he says that girls are conditioned to be vulnerable. That whole virgin/whore complex can definitely lead to vulnerability.

Okay, so when I first got married I was VERY insecure. I was always hesitant to make a decision or do anything really. Well our marrige headed straight downwards.

He ended up having to go to Afghan and while he was gone I decided that I was over being Insecure about everything and I gained my voice during his deployment. When he got home and till this day our marrige has never been better. I belive that he loves seeing me have my own opinion, love my body, and at times yell.Haha.

Sounds crazy but I belive men need a woman to be a little firm and outgoing. Also, he repects me ALOT more. Best turnaround in my life.

I think Yanniz hit the nail on the head! The poll has a very skewed perspective on the matter. It's not so much that men LIKE or even PREFER insecure women, it's that the poll happened to hide a secret about the men answering the question.

I know of people personally who always date insecure women and in the end, a real relationship never forms. The women never become attached and thus romance is never sparked, but at the same time, the man is left unsatisfied and wondering what he has done wrong. This feeling then grows into an insecurity, where he begins to think: "does she not like the way I look?", "do I try too hard?

", "maybe she just doesn't like putting labels on things. ", "am I ugly?", "is it my personality? ".

Presto! Now the man is insecure as well. As for why the insecure men continue to go back to the insecure women?

Well, it's obvious, they're more compatible.It's a never-ending cycle.

Yes becuse they are willing to do more and will take more b. S than secure women.

Yes, insecure women quite simply make men feel better. It gives men power, purpose, and meaning. Although, you won't find men becoming lustful or infatuated by insecure women as often.(Though I would say that the sadist in everybody smiles a little at the thought of it).

Yehha! If the chick is insecure you have the oportunitie to cheer her up and feel more superior hah.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.