TORN BETWEEN WHITE BOYFRIEND AND BLACK FAMILY AND FRIENDS, Help please, mature advice only?

Re-read your question and notice that everyone your boyfriend knows, including his family are "crazy" and you also indicate they are judgmental of you. This didn't happen all by itself. Your boyfriend doesn't seem to respect the private, texting conversations the two of you have, as he shows them to his friends.

Maybe he shows them because he thinks they are funny, but his friends take it a different way? I am not sure, but I wonder why texting mean and hateful things is ever necessary? Also your disagreements need to stay between you and your boyfriend, and everyone in the world, including your family, your friends, his family and friends, need not be alerted about them or involved.

It's disrespectful to advertise our personal issues about our relationships. I'd say an exception might be, if we really need to talk and have a very good (neutral thinking) friend who would listen so we can get things off our chest. So, it's some food for thought.

You said you are reactive when someone pisses you off. You haven't grown enough yet to realize that, what other people do or say isn't about you, but it's about THEM. Unless you or me instigate someone to treat us poorly or say something mean to us, we don't deserve it.

However, again, people say and do all sorts of stupid things without thinking. Probably because they lack compassion for others, have a low sense of self-worth too. I have grown to simply accept the fact that others dont' think like I do, and sometimes have little regard for my feelings.

And I always remember it's about them and their inner issues, not about me or anything I have done. I let things roll off my back instead of expending the energy to get all pissed off and angry. It takes so much energy to be all bent out of shape about stuff other people do.

It's not worth it. I have other things to do with my energy and time besides worry about someone else's behavior. It's a wonderful thing you and your boyfriend are so close.

It might be a good idea to ask him if the two of you could keep your relationship issues private and take care of them yourselves without involving everyone else. I think it would solve a lot of problems.

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