To answer this myself - according to someone from the VS team, the new extensibility structure does not offer ways to access these properties of controls in such detail. For what I want to achieve it will be necessary to go the old-fashioned way of getting hold of the DTE object, finding my toolbar and my controls and simply handle them as CommandBarButtons, just as I did in my Add-in.
I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.