What do you do when you hit middle age and your husband thinks you've gotten fat, but you don't feel fat?

When we married I was 5' 1" and 86 lbs, now I'm 136 lbs. NOT FAT! Just more healthy!

BUT he always pokes fun, isn't very sensual towards me. I have tried to talk to him about how badly it hurts me but it doesn't end. He's really a good guy, but this is really old.

I feel like I look better, but he won't let it be that way. Many nights I lay in bed and cry myself to sleep. I don't think he truly cares about my feelings on this matter.

What the heck can I do about this? It isn't funny, it really hurts. Asked by doodle12 39 months ago Similar questions: hit middle age husband thinks fat feel Health.

Similar questions: hit middle age husband thinks fat feel.

Since this sounds like emotional abuse I would take the following steps... Buy and read "The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing" by Beverly Engel. Spend time with people who value you and love you for who you are today, not with someone who wants you as you used to be. Take a photo of the hubby of today and put it next to hubby the newlywed.

Bet you have both increased the padding! If it seems worth it, try to re-kindle the sex. Climb out of any sexual ruts and get wild.

Life is too much fun to cry yourself to sleep every night. And if none of this works, maybe you need to figure out whether the "really good guy" you are with is really such a good guy and do you want to spend a big chunk of your life crying to sleep at night... Master_J's Recommendations The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing Amazon List Price: $14.95 Used from: $8.81 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 (based on 22 reviews) This is the book I am suggesting .

The next time he says you are fat, tell him his wee wee is tiny.

1 i'm sorry to hear that, doodle. That is basically mental abuse. And you don't have to put up with it.

Your not fat. If anything being 86 lb. S you were underweight.

Would you consider going to some sort of counseling? Would your husband? .

I'm sorry to hear that, doodle. That is basically mental abuse. And you don't have to put up with it.

Your not fat. If anything being 86 lb. S you were underweight.

Would you consider going to some sort of counseling? Would your husband?

2 Doodle, if he was a good guy as you say, he would truly care about your feelings. If it is at the point now where it hurts so much that you cry yourself to sleep, then I'd say he needs to learn to be a little more sensitive to you.

Doodle, if he was a good guy as you say, he would truly care about your feelings. If it is at the point now where it hurts so much that you cry yourself to sleep, then I'd say he needs to learn to be a little more sensitive to you.

3 ^ What they said. He's not a "good guy" if he doesn't get that it hurts you.

What they said. He's not a "good guy" if he doesn't get that it hurts you.

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