What is the best way to handle animosity between your husband and immediate family members?

My family is pretty rough. They aren't the nicest people in the world although they would be appalled by me saying so. They are very judgemental, nosy, and demanding.

When we first got married, I think they were jealous of the time my husband took away from me. Now, my husband and my family battle over opposing political views and my family has no problem saying whatever is on their mind regardless of how it might hurt my husband's feelings.As the middlewoman, it creates a huge amount of stress and anxiety for me. I know my family likes my husband, they just don't like that he has a backbone and that he won't "go along to get along".

I am interested in hearing about other individuals that have been in a similar situation. Asked by Arago 40 months ago Similar questions: handle animosity husband family members Lifestyle > Relationships.

Similar questions: handle animosity husband family members.

Do not allow them...... to put you in the middle. Tell your family and your husband that when discord comes up you do not want to be informed because you will not take sides. Many eons ago when I was newly married, my Mom (she was a great Mom) treated my husband and I like two clueless little kids (we were professional adults with serious jobs), bossing us around and determining how things should go.In our culture the respect to elders is taken very seriously but was really getting annoying and out of hand.

I will not rehash a situation that happened but Mom created a fight with my hubby because they did not see something eye to eye. I told both of them that I was not going to pick sides and I did not want to hear about it. Hubby agreed but Mom went on an adult temper tantrum and did not speak to me for about 3 months.

Got frost bite from the cold shoulder I got! Our relationship was never the same again because I stood on my grounds and showed her that finally I was independent. I have a hubby that tends to not have a backbone and I am always "on guard" with the war paint on to defend him.

Let your husband speak up. Some people love to debate. He will get more respect that way.

Warn the family first of your feelings and that you are done enduring the unnecessary stress. When the situation gets heated, grab your pocket book and walk out. Go shopping or visit a dear friend.

Give Peace A Chance Def a tough situation all around. If I were you before any gathering I would plan out some topics to easily switch to so you can avoid things that would hurt anyone's feelings. Keep it neutral.

Everyone's family battles over political views especially during election time. It's hard being stuck in the middle. Try to keep the visits as short and sweet as possible.

Always pick your battles and try not to trigger any type of arguments. I understand that your husband stands up for what he believes, just try to avoid these conversations.

Family My husband was very close to his cousin. When our son went to school he stayed with my husband's cousins daughter. This was agreed upon before he left for school.

After a year of helping whenever he could ,pretty much being at everyone's beckon call, my husband's cousin decided to throw our son out. With only his phone. She preceded to call him every name she could think of and curse him to the nth degree.

She also didn't bother to call my husband or me before she did this. This has called untold pain for my husband. I came to the defense of our son not my husband.

Which now has caused a problem that will never be fixed. She refuses to speak to anyone in our family. Well she said hello to my husband at a party that we were invited to last year.

Our son's graduation neither she nor anyone from my husbands family attended. We have since had our first grandchild no response. I have made repeated attempts to extend the hand of friendship to which she told me to delete her email address.

With great pleasure, I did. My husband blames me for this and has told me he will never forgive for it. I couldn't bare the insult to our son.

I waited for him to say something to this witch,he never did. And has never. So I did.My children are the best thing I ever did and I will defend to the death.

Yike's Keep the meetings to a minimum. You visit with your family when you need them. Find something else for him to do.

And keep the longer visits for the Holidays. And speak to your family and tell them we all need to play nice when we visit. My Brother n Law is an over bearing.Arrogant.

Better than everyone else kind of guy who speaks his mind. But I don't have to live with him. So we get along as long as we have to.

You can't bring peace in the long run. But its better than no time at all with your family.."Why Can't we all Just Get Along" .

1 I (with an earnest look) suggest to you that you buy - with the best of intentions - a dozen "Peace Pipes" and whenever the crowd gets together you can interrupt the heated discussions and solemnly hand out the peace pipes. Whoever is angriest is the one to light up first. If they don't smoke then just let them hold onto it as a reminder that "Peace" is a prized commodity in this world.It might make a good impression and ease the tensions.

If it works, so much the better. ;-) .

I (with an earnest look) suggest to you that you buy - with the best of intentions - a dozen "Peace Pipes" and whenever the crowd gets together you can interrupt the heated discussions and solemnly hand out the peace pipes. Whoever is angriest is the one to light up first. If they don't smoke then just let them hold onto it as a reminder that "Peace" is a prized commodity in this world.It might make a good impression and ease the tensions.

If it works, so much the better. ;-).

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I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.