When you argue or have a disagreement with your partner how does it get settled?

I sometimes shout when I'm angry but more often than not I am more silly than that and go very, very quiet. Nothing is discussed at this time because I don't say anything - I'm just too mad to speak. Eventually I do try and see the issue from another point of view and compromise whenever I can.

We both eventually realize that what we are arguing about has no affect on tomorrow. She usually laughs at me and we move on.

Were a pretty calm couple when we argue. It's rarely if ever over anything really important as we get along really well. Then we have make-up sex which is why I don't mind fighting with her.

It seems that with us, it never really does get settled until a long while later, sometimes months, sometimes even never. I am the less argumentative of us and I will usually try and walk away, and he won't let me. He has to keep at me and keep it going, all the while not really wanting to hear what I have to say--you know what I mean--you turn to speak and they cut you off mid-sentence and go off on another rant.

Finally I will do or say something to make him feel like a jerk, or more like just make him realize how close he's pushed me to the edge and then he'll back off for awhile. Communication is our one big problem. I would like to have calm discourse about the issues, he wants to place blame and sling mud.

Folks, without clear and honest communication, and without both parties being allowed to voice their side of the issue, there can be no compromise and no solution.

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