While packing for a lunch at the park you find a half empty bottle of vodka. How do you find out who it belongs to? you are the only adult?

I wouldn't care who it belonged to.. I'd drink it and leave a thank you note in it's location to which ever kid's it was...just so they knew I knew. I don't see a big issue with drinking in teens at least, especially if done at home. I think an attempt to punish and make it taboo only worsens the issue.

I think my note approach may make them more apt to reveal their drinking to me than me playing detective and trying to fish out the lush so to speak.

I wouldn't. I would spill out the vodka and throw the bottle in the garbage. If any teen approached me I am big enough to avoid a problem.

If the alcohol spoke I would take out my cell phone and advise them to walk away before the Police arrived. Underage drinking at home consists of a glass of beer or wine w/dinner by certain cultures, not bottles of vodka.

I too interpret this question to mean I found it in my home. I would first really step back and examine their behavior. Is there anything that would indicate one over the other?

Knowing me, I would gather them all together and stand firm that until I know exactly what's with the bottle, no one goes anywhere. You see all types of shows where the children pout and walk away. Oh No!

Not in my house. They will stay put. Then I would have a nice long talk about what's appropriate and what isn't.

I agree that once a child reaches 16, 17, 18 they are now adults. Any younger, and they would be wishing they never laid eyes on that bottle. I would hope that I have given them to perception that they can talk to me about anything.

I am trying to leave the communication lines open between my son and I, so if there was an issue, he would talk to me. And I would know it's his, he's an only child.

At first I'd laugh that my teenage kids (I assume that's the situation we're talking about; in my current situation I'd just think someone brought their own bottle and forgot to un-bring it) would be so stupid as to leave a bottle of vodka in the family cabinet. Then I'd get rid of it. I wouldn't drink it -- I don't know what's in it.

Sure, it's a very remote possibility that it was drugged somehow, but it's nevertheless a possibility. Then, I'd leave a note in its place for whomever left it to discover. Nothing serious, more of a "Please don't leave your alcohol in the family cabinet" thing.At this point, I don't know whose it is, and any "talk" I could give them at this point would go in one ear and out the other.

And I wouldn't want to wrongly accuse anyone.

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