Why do people make big deal out of waiting till marriage?

You should not "give up on the idea of being a mom" because your spouse has promised to marry you, live with you, and start a family with you. I really don't understand what you're saying at the end, because you said he wanted to wait until you were 30 instead of 25, so he can focus on having a career to support you and your future children. You're only 17 or 18, but right now you're saying that the difference between waiting 8 years to have kids and 12 years to have kids is the biggest concern you have?

Focus on the positives--you have a devoted spouse who shares your desires to have a family at approximately the same age as you (25-30, not that big a difference) and who is alive and healthy. Even though you would like to get married and have kids slightly sooner rather than later, accept that his opinions are valid too, and it's a lot easier to have kids right away when you decide you have waited long enough than it is to wait a little longer when you already have kids. Also, remember that 8-12 years is a very long time, especially when you are young.

By the time you're 25, you may have decided to have kids right away, or you may have decided to adopt in a few years, or you may want not to have any children. Don't let details about the future distract you from what's really going on in your life.

You're both only 17. Time is ahead of you and you shouldn't worry about this right now no matter how hard it is. At 17, its normal for him to be focused on his dreams and refuse to have kids and be a husband.

He's still working on his career. You have dreams that can wait and you should focus on things you can do now and enjoy your time together. My story: I was 15 when I met my fiance.

At 18 I started thinking I wanted kids someday (he was 21 at that time) I finished working one day when he picked me up and literally was breaking up because he had no desires for children or marriage. I had dreams of a beautiful wedding with him.. I couldn't impose this on him, I knew that. After some talk, I decided to "let time do its thing".

He would grow up and eventually... Want kids and live his time with me. When I turned 20 he proposed and we got engaged. We were supposed to get married summer 2010.

In 2009, he started talking about kids when my nephew was born (my brother's son). 2010 january, he told me to get off depo provera and get on the pill. September 2010, came home from work telling me to stop bc.

I didn't . I waited 2 weeks. He said it again, 100% sure.

December 26 2010, I found out I was pregnant. Ever since, we decided that we wouldn't get married. We are commonlaw wife and husband.

We will only get married at the court eventually. He is wonderful with my nehew, is IN LOVE with our son to be born in august. I never wouldve thought a guy to be THIS ready to be a dad.

I'm 23 he is 26 now. And have been together for almost 9 years. I waited, he changed his mind.

It was obviously normal. I hope this helped you a bit.. Sorry for the long storey, I could see myself in your situation. You're both young and its normal for one or the other to not be ready.

But its never a definite answer. Hell realize 30 is old for kids somehow.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.