Why do Some men treat women very poorly & women stay with them?

Some men abuse women mentally as well as physically. Whats up with this? Women also tend to stay with them no matter how bad they are treated.

Why? Asked by LindyAngel-Libra-66 46 months ago Similar questions: men treat women poorly stay Lifestyle > Relationships.

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If you are a healthy adult with healthy relationships, God Bless you! But when one comes from chaos and abuse...it becomes familiar-- ...without working on those issues you are almost bound to recreate them... And why do they stay? They are scared... They have been threatened into thinking they can never win learned helplessness They are ashamed... Because they don't know wholesome love--they keep thinking if they can just love him enough... They have no self-esteem; they had little when they married him--after him they have zilch... Many have no education--and are told they could never be hired because They are told repeatedly they are stupid--no matter how you try not to believe it--it begins to seem true They are told he will hunt them down and find them... A friend of mine's X told her he'd kill her mother and father if she left... I don't think anyone who has never been beaten down and abused can understand...I just don't... Thank God for women's shelters... Sources: Life lessons...but long ago and far away...thank God SeekerSeeking's Recommendations Black and Blue (Oprah's Book Club) Amazon List Price: $15.00 Used from: $0.92 Average Customer Rating: 4.0 out of 5 (based on 450 reviews) Sleeping With The Enemy Amazon List Price: $15.00 Healing the Trauma of Abuse: A Woman's Workbook Amazon List Price: $24.95 Used from: $12.00 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 (based on 2 reviews) Beginning to Heal (Revised Edition): A First Book for Men and Women Who Were Sexually Abused As Children Amazon List Price: $11.95 Used from: $3.46 Average Customer Rating: 4.0 out of 5 (based on 4 reviews) First two are fiction, but make you see it...

It's complex. Some women like "bad boys" and are turned on by their misbehaviour. However, there is another reason.

Why do men treat women so poorly? One of my main answers is "because they can. " Many know that their woman feels dependant upon them, and that's the first place they go to lash out.

The societal expectation is that women will just take it, because "that's how men are," or "boys will be boys. " There's also a pervading hierarchy in today's society that still, somehow, places women in a kind of permanent second class status. It's been that way ever since the Adam and Eve myth was used to justify the new social order.

Also, some men were themselves abused, usually as children, and they didn't ever learn the non-abusive way to live and to treat women in a better way. That's just how they grew up seeing women treated, and see it as normal. Or, they had no control of their lives for so long that now, they take it out on women, who are "lower on the totem pole" and seen as the one thing that maybe he CAN control.

Women are often easy to manipulate emotionally, and that kind of abuse isn't as easy to suss out - even for the woman - as other more violent, blatant forms of abuse. Sometimes, it takes a while to know it's there, like the story about the frog in the hot water. By the time the woman (or sometims even an abused man; it happens) realizes what's going on, it's fairly entrenched.

Women are very often raised to have low self esteem, and think this is the only guy they can get - the only one who would ever "want" them. However, from the inside of an abusive relationship, things look very different than the ydo to an outside observer. The woman will make excuses as to why it isn't really abuse."He's only like that when he's drunk," or "It's my fault, I shouldn't have burnt dinner," or "He's having a hard time at work.

" Also, traditionally, women are a little more economically dependant upon men than men are on women. Perhaps she feels that she can't make a go of it on her own, either because she has no place to go, or no job skills beyond "housewife," or that he's cowed her into having such bad self esteem that she thinks she's not good enough for any other situation. Abused women have a notable lack of confidence that hold them back from many things, including getting the h*ll out!

Signs to look for in an abusive relationship. Myths and Facts about the causes of battering. Escape Abuse!

-- also has some clues as to why the abuse goes on. Sources: experience laureth's Recommendations The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing Amazon List Price: $14.95 Used from: $8.79 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 (based on 18 reviews) .

The women are codependent and are used to this treatment from their own upbringing. They try to earn their... husbands love and think they will win them over and then fear keeps them in the relationship. They become isolated and don't have the money etc to leave.

I think it is sad. I am glad they have abuse shelters for people.

Sad but true Because both learn this bad patterns from his fathers or inner family circle, and also because man tend to express violence to their outside (yeal, hit, punch) and womans to their interior (accept to themselves the positon of the painful situation), is a codependence and sick situation. Sources: my opinion .

Alpha syndrome (if that's not real, I just made it up and copyright it)... The female wants to be with the alpha male to ensure their offspring survive.

" "Women artists are poorly represented in the Tucson Museum of Art. Is it the same in your city?" "How can men from the middle east treat their women such way? " "Do you think Women's lib destroyed men?

Has then divorce from this liberation destroyed relationships even more....

Women artists are poorly represented in the Tucson Museum of Art. Is it the same in your city?

Has then divorce from this liberation destroyed relationships even more....

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.