Assalam o Alalikum hearfelt concerns for your family matters. May Allah swt bless you with patience and wisdom to deal with these testing times in most beneficial ways. Insh'allah.
Man WILL die , if he had to suffer the pain which comes from birth. Allah swt blessed females with the patience to withstand the pain, that can easily take the life of any 'courageous' and 'brave' man. So, why so?
Why do women suffer the pains of child birth? Althought these are matters pertaining to vain talk , since knowing them won't much effect or impact the state of our imaan UNLESS we sincerely seek to understand the Wisdom behind this. Allah swt is Most Wise and Most Knowledgeable.
And Everything He does is for the best. We must leave such matters aside and focus on our own shortcomings and downfalls in following to Allahs commandments. Why do women suffer the most?
Can I counter argue, and ask: Why is it that Allah swt made women so attractive in the eyes of men? Gave them the ability to generate offspring, and furthermore, gave mothers (in Islam) such an exalted position, which can not be achieved by any men , no matter how knowledgeable or practising father he maybe? Allah swt is Most Just and He created us in Best of Forms (ashraful makhlooqat) and gave us the best OF PURPOSE!
(i.e. To worship and become a slave of The Creator of the Heavens and the Earth). He knows what is best for us.
EVERY pain will be RECOMPENSATED in the hereafter. The pain of this world is temporary. Whereas, the eternal pain of damnation in hellfire will increase with time and will never stop!
There is some controversy on this subject, but it seems women have a greater tolerance to pain than men! Research shows that women begin to feel pain before men do, but they can withstand pain to a larger threshold than men. Now, taking into consideration pain thresholds, pain frequencies and men vs. women lifestyles, it really becomes difficult to estimate which gender generally experiences the most pain.
It doesn't really matter, though, since we believe God is just, and there's a reason for everything.
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