Why is a relationship so hard to maintain? Why don't relationships last these days?

I always was told, meeting the right person is not the hard part, Its maintaining the relationship is what's the hardest. I found myself in this situation and would think after 7years it would be less complicated. I don't understand how marriages from back then lasted so long and now why they don't work out!

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It is difficult because people constantly change and grow and so do circumstances. Marriages lasted in the old days, and now, if people do not see divorce as an 'out clause'. That they are going to stick with it and the person, and be loyaly and faithful.

Money, jobs, marital infidelity are all eroding marriage, and it really all comes down to yes, you might be in love when you get married, but do you even KNOW the person you are marrying? If you look at the 5 Love Languages and other books by Dr Gary Chapman, he has a very practical take on expectations, both spoken and unspoken, in marriages, and if they are not sorted out, there is hell to pay. Finally, anyone looking for validation or affirmation in a love relationship is doomed to disappointment.

You have to life yourself first and then be able to offer love, hopefully unconditional love and support to another person. Finally, IMHO, things have take the place of relating-materialism, and also, if and when kids come along, the kinds' needs and wants take priority over the couple being in love. There needs to be a balance.

Good luck! .

I don't understand how marriages from back then lasted so long and now why they don't work out! The feminist movement killed it, cell phones, computers, you name it.

And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold" (Matthew 24:12) While we all know that "iniquity" = "sin," another way to define sin is selfishness. Yes, "sin" is disobedience of God's law; humans disobey God's law because they don't want to give to others, much less to God--they want to keep and get more. Selfishness abounds as sin abounds.

When we stopped being a people who thought God's holiness was a good thing, we stopped being a people who learned how to love others. It's the time invested in the relationship over doing something else. You can't do both; you must choose to have the relationship or the money, have the relationship or the entertainment, have the relationship or the buddies..

2 A marriage lasts as long as two people want it to. When one person wants out, its over. Marriages back then lasted longer because the alternatives were not available.

Most women couldn't find employment as a divorcée. Also, back then marriage was more of a partnership instead of fairy tale. A lot more temptations and misinformation today.

But marriage still is a challenge. I suspect that real love is learned, and not just expected.

A marriage lasts as long as two people want it to. When one person wants out, its over. Marriages back then lasted longer because the alternatives were not available.

Most women couldn't find employment as a divorcée. Also, back then marriage was more of a partnership instead of fairy tale. A lot more temptations and misinformation today.

But marriage still is a challenge. I suspect that real love is learned, and not just expected.

3 I agree with what Phoenixx said, but also want to add that there has to be communication, a desire to make each other happy, and a desire to meet each others psychological and sexual needs. It has been my experience that after some years this is not always the case. Nobody should have to feel invisible, rejected, criticized and belittled, and basically ignored.

Don't wait too long, life is shorter than you think. Don't waste any more time being miserable.

I agree with what Phoenixx said, but also want to add that there has to be communication, a desire to make each other happy, and a desire to meet each others psychological and sexual needs. It has been my experience that after some years this is not always the case. Nobody should have to feel invisible, rejected, criticized and belittled, and basically ignored.

Don't wait too long, life is shorter than you think. Don't waste any more time being miserable.

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Afraid of getting into close relationships with other people.

I don't want a relationship, at least not now.

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