Why is it acceptable for girls to dress & act as boys, but not for boys to dress & act as girls?

Well because they want to be women. I have a few male-to-female transgender friends. They are often more feminine than the average woman.

Morita - I haven't read any of your other answers yet. I'm going to do you the courtesy of assuming that you're asking this seriously. First off, I don't hate myself.

I hate that birth defect between my legs, I hate what it has done to me biochemically, and I don't like what I used to see in the mirror. In addition, you speak about how far society has come, to be able to handle feminine males. Every year in November, we hold the Transgender Day Of Remembrance, a day to remember and mourn our brothers and sisters who have died violently the past year simply for being transsexual.

(Skip the rest of this paragraph if you're squeemish.) This past year, we had about 400 new ones to remember. People have been beheaded, dismembered, shot in the back, raped and strangled, drowned, and those are just the ones I remember off the top of my head. I would suggest that society is not as evolved as you might think it is.

Being transsexual is not a deception. If I were trying to deceive anyone, I would not have stayed at one job I've worked for two years and another I've worked for ten years. Believe me, everyone there knows exactly what is going on.

This is about honesty, at least for me. I am very tired of lying to everyone I meet. I am very tired of watching everything I say, everything I do.

When I was about 10, I consciously changed the way I crossed my legs to keep from being read, for Heaven's sake. To me, all of that male posturing was the deception, and I'm sick of it. No, people should not be encouraged to hate themselves, and I never was.

Instead, I have the opportunity to live my life as I wish to live it. And yes, surgery is required for that, but we use surgical means to correct all sorts of things nowadays, both serious and trivial. Lastly, perhaps I'm reading something that's not there, but you seem to be concerned that someone will get a sex change (we refer to it as SRS - sexual reassignment surgery - or GRS - gender reassignment surgery) on a whim.

There are safeguards built into the system to prevent that. I have been in therapy for this off and on since about 1983. In my current round, I've been in therapy for two years, continuously, and it'll be another eight months before I can even qualify as a candidate for SRS.

Before that happens, I'll need to have a letter from a second therapist (who, I believe, has to be an MD) stating that the diagnosis is correct and I'm a candidate. Then, of course, I have to save up the money, which is a non-trivial thing. Most insurance policies don't cover this.

Yes, people do slip through the cracks, but not very many, and honestly I think anyone who does get surgery without meeting these requirements probably gamed the system deliberately. I hope this explains things better. If you want to talk further or have questions I can answer, send me a message.

I will respond.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.