Why won't my wife initiate sex?

It sounds to me that your wife is one of those women who was taught that sex is not something that "good" girls are interested in. There are many women who are raised to believe that only a whore enjoys sex and they would never allow themself to have an orgasm. A lot of times these women were raised in very religious homes but not always.

It's something that her parents taught her from a very young age so it's going to be a hard thing for her to confront. I don't think it's rejection or stress or resentment of you or being tired or any of the other reasons that sometimes cause a lower sexual appetite because from what you've said the only time she showed any interest in sex was for a short time while pregnant. I don't think her lack of desire for you has anything at all to do with you.

I think it's about what's going on in her head. Unfortunately that doesn't help you much unless she is willing to make an effort to change the way she thinks about sex. However I would avoid saying things like it being her responsibility to "keep her man happy".

That phrasing isn't going to get you much sympathy but I do agree that a man and woman should care about the others happiness. If you both tried to make a positive contribution to your relationship every day things would probably be much better between you. Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship but it's certainly should be a large part of any happy marriage.

I think you both need to start seeing a counselor, as a couple and seperately. She needs to examine her view of sex and discover why she finds it so distasteful. If you can get her the help she needs and if she'll accept that help and try to work toward a healthy sex life there is hope for you both.

Even if she won't see a counselor I think you should go so you can start to understand that this isn't necessarily about you and maybe you could start feeling less resentful and angry.

Goes to show test driving the car before marriage doesn't always work. Most women don't get orgasms during regular sex. They need clitoral stimulation.

Sounds like the best thing for you to do is go to marriage counseling to savage this marriage. I really hope you both can make it work, as you sound like a really good man. Sex isn't the most important thing in a marriage, but it's up there.

What if the tides were turned? What if you had erectile dysfunction and she wanted sex?

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