Would you let your friend yell at your son? How would you respond?

Personally, I'd tell her to stop yelling at my kid, because yelling is not an affective way to communicate, and teaches children to be emotional, rather than rational, during disagreements. I would then pull my son aside, explain that what he did was not okay, even though what she did was not okay either. I would ask him to apologize to her, even if she doesn't apologize back, and then tell him that he should always do the right thing even when other kids (and, ahem, adults) don't.

Then, later, away from the kids, I would explain to my friend that was not acceptable behavior on her part. I don't think I would lecture her about not talking to her daughter about the shoving, but explain that if you see violence like that, you will calmly intervene to maintain everyone's safety, and that you will calmly explain the rule about no hitting to any child who hits. I think parents should be able to correct other people's children, since safety is paramount and I don't see a problem with kids knowing that there is a network of adults ready to enforce rules, but corrections should be fair, loving, and calm.

Parents should also only correct other people's kids if those parent's aren't around. You were right there, so it was your territory.

Some people yell all the time. Some people only when exasperated. If you really like your friend and want continue to your friendship I say you do it nicely.

This happens a lot, aunts, uncles, good friends all trying to correct or discipline my children. I just say " I appreciate your help but when I'm here please let me handle whatever the situation. He doesn't respond well to a raised voice" This usually gets the point across.

But a yeller is a yeller. Good Luck!

While looking her in eye with a pleasant, relaxed expression, I would calmly say, 'Please don't yell at my son, I'll handle his behavior and you handle your daughter's behavior. " A three old will be a three year old. They have to learn correct behavior both from being taught and by example.

The mother who yelled at your son probably yells at her kids at home. That is not a good example for her kids or yours.

Difficult situation it seems, I suggest you just respond with the first thing that come up to your mind. Different people would react differently. I say don't shout at my son you asshole.

If you don't stand up for your son , who would then?

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