Would you really want to go back 20 years in your life if you had the chance? My husband and I were talking about this?

My husband and I were talking about this.. last night. It sounds good, to be 20 years younger. And then we started to think about all the things we had gone through.

Twenty yrs. Ago we were in our 30's, our kids were not teens yet. Everything was hunky dory till my oldest became 14 and met her first abusive boyfriend.

Then my mother in law, 89, came to live with us, and I had to quit my job to care for her. Eventually she had to go into a home, at 91.It was very emotional. Then my father had a stroke, and I had to care for him while trying to work, and my step-son got his girlfriend pregnant.

When my daughter was in college, we let my daughter have a friend move in with us "temporarily" till she found a job, and she ended up stealing from us, and we had to ship her out. Then daughter gets pregnant, married, they live in our house for 2 years, finally get their own, and get divorced a year later. Father is falling apart, has to go in a home at 95.

Devastating. Please go to d.b.... Asked by Kar* 39 months ago Similar questions: back 20 years life chance husband talking Lifestyle > Relationships.

Similar questions: back 20 years life chance husband talking.

Oh, great...............second chance........... to make sure I would handle things differently or screw up the same way. My fault.... too generous and flexible with the kids (loves of our life). I was the boss at home but compensated by the fact that I grew up with very little.

Gave too much, too soon, too often and as consequence things are taken for granted now and kids, now adults, need instant gratification. Funny..... that they say they will be tougher with their kids.............. You had many things and dramas happening in your life and it is clear that you paid your dues helping others. We would not have allowed a 14 year old with an abusive boyfriend.

Hubby and his karate black belt would have handled it and daughter would be grounded forever or placed in a nunnery. Major brainwashing was done here at home. We used to tell them about the high expectations we knew they would meet and it really worked.

They behaved. I think you should pat and praise yourself for being resilient and be greatful that you were able to help so many. Good for you to be in that position instead of being the one that needed the help.

I admire you. Looking back at all the stuff that happened the sadness is attached to not being recognized for your efforts. You would fell better if the ones that are your family and friends would show a little appreciation.

Your father and mother in law.... made of good stock and living to such ripe age. What is happening is part of life. Your daughter is living her life maybe naive and making poor choices.

Talk to her. I keep quoting this: "A mother is only as happy as her unhappiest child". If your daughter is unhappy you are going to be down, too.

Try to determine if you really need to worry. Good luck.

NO REGRETS... YOUR EXPERIENCES WILL MAKE YOU STRONGER! You are going thru a lot these times. I am sorry you thought of going back 20 years and thinking of changing things.

I would NOT WANT to go back 20 years. YOUR LOVE FOR PEOPLE AROUND YOU WILL HELP YOU GET THROUGH ALL THIS. I just know that someday, all the hardships and love that you have given will go back to you in hundred folds.

Taking care of the elderly is tough, seeing children having unsuccessful marriage hurts. But all people has to go through experience to make them decide better the next time, and be better people. I am sure that they might have not mentioned it, but they thank you for every support you do for them.

And they respect you more because of that. Forgive and forget people and experiences not good, make sure to pick up the lessons to be learned. There is always a good side to every situation... focus on them instead, everything that happens has purpose... these are given to you because you can do it... But pray if sometimes you lose control, or lose strength, and will to continue, seek wisdom.

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Go back twenty years... I don't think so. Actually the last twenty years have been some of the most successful and happiest of my life so I am tempted. But when I think of other experiences, most especially the loss of those very dear to me -- like my mother, I think I will pass.

You see, in many ways, I am happy to have gotten through all those land minds, pitfalls, clever traps, land sharks and other hazards of life. I have my hair, my sanity, and best of all, people I love and a safe haven in which to grow old (er). I firmly believe that we return here as often as we need in order to learn to learn, learn to love, and just plain love.

I think we are suppose to do that and that there is great value in just experiencing life. This argues against repeating it even though I wouldn't mind getting some of the stamina back. Your life sounds like you most definitely wouldn't want to relive it.

Now if you asked, "Would you like to take twenty years off your age", you betcha! .

Ahhh 20 years ago...let me think... Although I have no complaints about life as it is today...it was all so very different 20 years ago... My mom and stepdad were still alive...and so were my inlaws....Mom and Ray lived in apartment we built onto our old farm house in Connecticut and my inlaws lived in the house behind us with my sis and bro-in-law. Our house was the place where we'd all get together for the holidays. Our kids were all in their 20's or late teens...some getting married and some just having kids...is there anything better than grandkids at Christmas?

Jack was making good wages and I had a full-blown woodworking business going...and the kids and grandkids all lived either nearby or a couple hours drive away... What wonderful memories we have of those times... So, here we are, retired, living in Florida. The kids...well, they're all in their 40's and late 30's now...two in California, 1 in New York. One in Seattle, 1 in Connecticut...and two in Florida...but not nearby...a 7 hour drive away in two different directions... Two granddaughters and two grandsons we haven't seen in 5 years...and two great-grandbabies we've never gotten to hold and cuddle... The good thing is, that we bought a big old log cabin with room enough to sleep 11 or 12 people at one time...so we get lots of company when the weather gets cold up north Rather than go back 20 years...I'm more curious just what the next 20 years will have to offer... If we stay energetic and healthy...it could be interesting.

1 I used to visit my dad every day, and felt so guilty I'd throw up. Now we are going through child support issues and visitation issues with my grandson. Also personality issues with my daughter.

Seriously, would you want to go back? .

I used to visit my dad every day, and felt so guilty I'd throw up. Now we are going through child support issues and visitation issues with my grandson. Also personality issues with my daughter.

Seriously, would you want to go back?

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