Your friend drank too much on New Year's Eve and performed a wild table dance while stripping off her top. The next day, she seems to have?

How can people ever make an educated and honest decision, if they never know the outcomes of the ones they've made in the past. As humans we can only learn from our mistakes. If you would have said "hey don't drink too much I wouldn't want you to make an @ss of yourself" she probably would have never given it a second thought, and drank the same way she did.

But by giving her a play by play of the evening, she can make an educated choice as to whether or not her consumption was excessive, and would have that as a reminder for the next night out. I would tell her. You are her friend and you need to concern yourself with what is in her best interest.

Sometimes being a friend means being honest and acting in their best interest. How could withholding that infromation from her, be best? She needs to know that she lost control, and potentially could have placed herself in harms way if she were in different company.

When it comes to my friends, I will give them the truth, no matter how hard. I love them and care for them, and tough love should be given by someone who means it and supports you. How would she feel if she found out from and acquaintance, and not from her friend?

Would that damage the trust in the relationship?

Pose things hypothetically. Tell her a story of another person acting this way, and making it clear that it was somebody in a different group other than yours. See if she would want to know if it had been her acting that way.

Then decide... Let her decide for herself indirectly.

I'd ask her if she wanted to know or not. I'd tell her that she was drunk and behaved in not so decent manner. It was an embarassing act, and asked if she want to know the details.

What she did at the party might come to haunt her later. There were people at the party who might talk about her behavior behind her. The gossip might put her into deep trouble with her coworkers, family, or boyfriend.It is up to her if she want to prepare herself for the possibility.

I'd let her know. I would want to know. One for my own personal knowledge of my actions, two for future reference.

Knowing your limits and the signs that you are passing them is very important to drinking. Being aware that she crossed hers by a long shot will help her prevent from doing it again if she so wishes. It also may have been a reaction to certain type of booze.

I can drink vodka or rum till the fish drown but give me a bottle of tequila and it's a few shots to irish drunk and dangerous. ( I am a violent drunk with words lol) As a result I don't drink tequila. Knowledge is power whether it's embarrassing knowledge or not.

If everyone was willing to keep quiet, I might tell her something like "you're lucky you were around friends last night. Everyone is willing to be discreet, but you did some pretty shocking things. I would hate to think that you could lose control like that in a different environment, because you could have been hurt, or the consequences later could have been terrible.

I want you to know, because I care about you, that I am very concerned about your behavior. " If she really wanted to know what she did, I would tell her, because maybe the shock that she could do something like that, and not remember, would help convince her that she needs to control her intake. People who can get that far gone, and don't immediately understand that they need to not do that again run the risk of putting themselves in some very dangerous situations.

That's the perfect recipe for sexual assault, drunk driving, or alcohol poisoning.

There's a good chance that this could haunt her later if you don't let her know. If you want to spend some time figuring out if she'd like to know first, that's probably okay. However, there are also cameras and cell phones everywhere these days.

How upsetting might it be if you don't tell her and then she finds out later after a lot of preventable damage is done?

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.