After a good first date, should I call him or wait for him to call me?

Call one time and make it brief. Here's what I would do to avoid the awkward "too soon" phone call: Call him from your home line. Not your cell phone.

Tell him that you're just heading out but wanted to give him a quick call to say that you had a great time and to say thanks. Tell him to give you a call later if he'd like to get together again or that you'll give him a call later. Then say goodbye.

Even if he wants to talk more, tell him you're just heading out but would love to chat later. That's it. A sweet, short phone call to say thanks.

Anything more might get a bit odd and if you can leave him "wanting more", he will. Good luck!

If you enjoyed yourself and his company, I see no reason to wait for him to call you. I say be yourself, be real. If he enjoyed your company he will appreciate your call.

If he didn't, you will be able to tell and move on to the next date. In my humble opinion, life is too short to play games. Be yourself and you will attract people that like you for you.

Play games and you will attract people that play games. Keep in mind that it was a first date. Don't come across like he is your soul mate and you can't live without him.

Just tell him you enjoyed yourself and hope to go out again. You may even tell him you were not sure if it was a good idea to call him first, but after talking with friends you decided that it would be all right. The bottom line is, be yourself.

Let me tell you a story: When chat rooms first became popular on the internet I, of course, checked them out. I figured that it was cool. I could test out being anything I wanted to be.

I soon got bored of this. It was too much effort trying to be someone that I wasn't. Then I had the bright idea, "Why not be myself, my true self.".

Let people on here know who I really was. It was safe to tell people exactly who I was. That way I could check out peoples reactions to the real me.

Things I was afraid to say and do in the "real" world. The experiment had some surprising results. People liked me!

They responded by being open and real themselves. I could tell it was not a show. Those people that were playing games always cut the conversation short.

Their BS could not stand up to a real conversation. Anyway, this gave me the confidence to be my real self in pubic, at work, and yes with my family and friends.My relationships improved all the way around. Now I look back and wonder why I always thought I had to put up a facade!

If someone doesn't like me, that's okay. With about 7 billion people on the planet, they will find true friends also. So be yourself.

Besides, if you enjoyed yourself, he probably enjoyed himself. He is probably wondering how long he should wait to call YOU. He don't want to seem TOO excited.

You know what I mean?

Give it a couple of days before you call him. If he calls you before you then thats great! If he does pick up when you call make it simple and say you are just calling to say "hello" and let let him know that you had a great time on the date.

If he is interested in you trust me he would call you back and ask you on a second date. Don't stress over it. If he is not the one then there is a right person for you out there!

To be quite honest, I'm chicken....I wouldn't call. I just couldn't do it! I'm too demure?

LOL Anyone who knows me will laugh at that, but it's sort of true. I don't call. Shrug.

But I have, if I've ever talked to the person online, sent them a thank you and had a good time email and included my number with a casual, "If you ever want to do it again, give me a holler..." noncommittal, but at the same time, you let them know you'd be interested in hearing from them. They can then respond to the email, call, not call, or whatever, but you at least feel like you did something. What I DO NOT recommend is posting something about it on a social networking website though.

For example, don't go onto Myspace and leave a profile comment for them saying, " Saturday was awesome. Let's do it again! " That leads to some potentially awkward things... not speaking from personal experience, but I have a friend who had this happen with someone and it turned out the guy was married!.

Personally I won't... Because I believe that if he really found your date good and if He is really INTERESTED IN YOU, he would make the next move and be the one to call you first... At least that way you are sure that the next time you guys go out together it would be because he truly LIKES YOU and WANT to be with YOU... and NOT because HE is just giving you a favor or just trying to be a gentleman who doesn't want to turn a lady down...

After a good first date I would email him and say something like: "I just wanted to say that I enjoyed spending time with you last night - I had no idea you have such a good sense of humor (or whatever)"... Your Name You don't even have to give him your phone number since he'll be able to reach you by email if he wants to contact you. I don't think this sounds too "pushy".

Call him! I think it is a breath of fresh air to get a call from a woman after a good first date. Just say that you enjoyed the date and would like to do it again.

Invite him out to a similar event that you know is coming up. I would give it a couple of day but after that go for it! Don't wait too long that usually just makes the situation more awkward.. ..

That said, I'd challenge your take that you had a good first date because I suspect you didn't ask the most important question to determine if you and your date would be truly compatible long-term. I'm sure you had a good time, but what did you learn? I've read a lot of articles and books on how to tell if someone would be truly compatible with me, and in my opinion the best of them was Hayden Dane's "I Have One Question," a short e-book he offers at haydendane.com.

Dane claims that the key to true compatibility is admiration. I'd never given admiration a thought, but after reading the book I'm convinced he's right. Now, on the first date I have the conversation Dane suggests and if I like the answers, then I conclude that it was a good date.

Anyone can show someone a good time, but that doesn't mean they would be right for you.

Depends on who said they'd call. If neither of you mentioned calling the other, give him a day or two before you rush to the phone. If he still hasn't called after two days, call him and see if he'd like to meet up for something casual and easy like a drink after work, coffee or lunch.

Simple as that. If you wait too long, you run the risk of making yourself nervous and getting upset for potentially no reason. These days, it doesn't matter who calls who.

Sometimes guys just get distracted and easily lose track of time. Before they know it, they've been on a great date, spent a couple nights out with the guys and all of a sudden it's next week! Then, they get nervous about calling because they are all but certain you'll either be disappointed and angry or they'll start to get insecure and tell themselves you've already moved on because you didn't call him either.

Just relax. Coolly call him after two days go by for coffee. The cooler you are about it, the more intrigued he'll most likely be.

Don't obsess. Just do it! Cheers!

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Maybe you have asked a wrong question. Are you expecting a way that somehow will do good to the relationship? People called right away may still breakup eventually, but it doesn't mean that people dun do so can keep their relationship.

None of the answers here can satisfy you, you ask the question not because of looking for answer, you ask because of him. I choose to answer the 'hidden question' of this question, hope it helps.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.