Am I selfish/narrow minded if I don't entirely feel confident that even my husband will be there for me in hard times?

Meaning, I hope he's there, but I wouldn't put 100% trust in ANY human to be there for me when I am in dire need. Is this selfish or narrow mined of me? Why or why not?

Asked by newby 2 months ago Similar questions: selfish narrow minded feel confident husband hard times Society.

Similar questions: selfish narrow minded feel confident husband hard times.

I think it shows that you have been hurt in your life or the important people in your family weren't there for you. Only you know your husband well enough to make that determination. Trust that he will honor his vows which offer you some legal protection.It's up to you to build enough love and affection between you to make him want to stand by you in difficult times.

Well, I've seen even the nicest guys turn on their wives. Why trust anyone 100%? Newby 2 months ago .

This is something that your parents have ingrained into you, in order to keep you around so you will be there to care for them when they get old. They have undermined your self confidence and destroyed your feeling of your own self worth to the point that you second guess everything. That's really sad - and since you admit you cannot fully trust anyone or anything, you have no business getting URL1 marriage will last without trust.

And you also need to take a look at the fact that you are convinced that at some point in your life you are going to be in "dire need", and cannot get through it on your own - like hundreds of thousands of others have managed to do. You need therapy. I am not saying that as an insult, but as a fact.

Until you get this multitude of fear and projections under control, you are going to have a miserable life.

Fine. I'll live unmarried my whole life. Newby 2 months ago .

Yes, I am sure you will. By the time you break free from your parents, you will be old.

Judging from the questions you have asked here on Askville, I would say that you are very young and you come from a society very different from ours. You seem to have a lot of issues that you need to address with family & friends, not with strangers here.

Perhaps you past is giving you this information in your present. There comes a time when the defenses that worked so well to keep us safe as a kid--need to be put aside because they only cause us problems in our adult world. If you have trust issues--I'd suggest therapy to help you learn how to healthily trust.

Also words like "selfish/narrow minded' are beat-yourself-up words and won't help at all.

My husband is so selfish. He goes and does what and when he wants. Is this just a phase in his life?

Please advise. " "Does a photo of a woman playing softball mean that she's gay? Have we become that narrow-minded?

My husband is so selfish. He goes and does what and when he wants. Is this just a phase in his life?

Please advise.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.