Are you honest about everything with your spouse or significant other, or do you keep secrets?

The only information I hold back from my wife is at her request. She trusts me to know when the time is right to share certain types of information with her. Except for that we have never had secrets from each other since the day we met.

We share everything. Every thought, every fantasy, every dream, every pain, every joy. It's so nice.

:) I talk a lot (as anyone who follows me on here knows). It's nice to have someone that likes to hear it all. She also laughs at all my bad jokes.

I'd say she laughs at all my good jokes too, but they're all bad... I've been in relationships where it was necessary to keep secrets just to preserve the relationship. I"m SO glad that's no longer the case. I can't imagine living with someone and having to keep secrets.

What's the point? I can hang out with strangers and never have to reveal anything if that's what was important to me. Unless you have a job that requires you to keep secrets (work secrets are boring anyway), I say pick your relationships wisely.

Also who you share your personal information with, especially online.

This is an interesting question, as I have had to turn around this aspect of my marriage! I have been married for over forty years, and have always shared all my thoughts and opinions with my husband. We have always worked together, and all money, bill paying, and everything to do with finance was shared.

We never had any secrets from each other, and always discussed every arising problem. (with children, business etc. ) Then, six years ago, he had several strokes. This greatly affected his emotions, and would and does, get super upset at the slightest thing.

So, I am now the sole breadwinner, and take care of all the finances, the best I can) I have to be very careful of what I discuss with him, as not to upset him. So now I have to hide any problems, and work on those myself. We are constantly together, and I try to keep life as balanced as possible, but have to keep some secrets, for his best interest, as you put it.

The money aspect is no secret, but he leaves that all to me anyway, and never asks about those things, but when the kids are going through rough patches, I keep that from him to a certain degree, as he gets far too upset. So I have learned, what I can tell him, and which is better not to discuss. This was really hard for me in the beginning, as we talked over all the problems, and non problems.

So sometimes I do feel quite alone, but take each day, as they come.

I like this question; it is something that is probably different for everyone. Of course the moral compass tells us that it's not right to lie, especially to someone we love. We do sometimes have to do this though don't we?

When my husband and I were first together, years and years ago, there was an ex boyfriend of mine who started to come around. Long story short one thing led to another and we kissed once. My first instinct was to lie about it, which I did for a while.

The thing was I loved my then boyfriend and wanted to spend my life with him, so I started to feel guilty. On top of the guilt I felt that I couldn't spend the rest of my life with him if I lied to him about this. Also, how could I expect him to be honest with me if I kept things from him?

So I told him. That was not the kind of lie you keep going, it was just an attempt to save face on my behalf. However since then there have been times I lied to him.

However, these were on occasions when it was what they call a "white lie". For example, he once shaved his head. He didn't look good but I said he did because it wasn't that big of a deal and I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

I think to lie or not to lie is all about judgment. White lies to a spouse are okay but if you did something wrong, fess up.

I have to say no secrets here. From the day my husband and I met we made a agreement not to hold anything back from each other to have open communications. We feel that is what keeps couples together is open communications and honesty.

Why hide things.. if that the case then what good is a relationship there is no trust nor love to the full extent. How can a couple grow together without be honest in a relationship. They can't only if they want a rocky marriage.My husband and I have been married for 12 years this coming summer.

We love each other more than the day we met. Love grows on ya so yes it best to have honesty and open communications. We are like 2 peas in a pod all snuggle up for life.

Lol. Can't imagine not having honesty and open communication just to be able to share everything with that one person and trust them and grow in love each day for that spouse.It a special gift to have in a relationship. No sense in keeping secrets only at christmas time lol.

As for money we have our own seperate checking accounts to pay bills we split all bills. I gave him a choice either pay the lot rent or pay all the little bills.. So he chooses the lot rent one bill to pay .. I do the rest but bottomline is it our money together. We don't hide what we have for money cause we work together to do things and pay bills.

Once again open communications in everything in a relationship.It really important and does effect how you live for the rest of your life. I am happy with what I have and love my hubby dearly.

I try to do everything that I can to be as honest as possible with my wife. When it comes to money, we are always straight forward with eachother with how much we spend. We had some financial issues a few years ago, and realized that being straight forward with eachother was the best possible solution for the future.

I know that many people keep certain information about particular Facebook friends from their spouses, but we do not. She knows that I have friends that I used to date seriously, and she does not have an issue with that. She has friends that she used to date as well, and we have built up a strong enough bond of trust that I know that I do not have to worry about anything.

She has learned, though, if I do not want to talk about something, not to ask. Usually this pertains to issues with work. I spent a long time working as a political/business consultant.

I was often privy to private information, and she learned not to ask about it. She found out quickly that if I could keep a secret from her, I could keep it from anyone. I think that one of the reasons why my wife and I clicked so well from the start is that we are brutally honest people.

If you ask for our opinion on a matter, we will give it to your bluntly. We will tell you what we think no matter if you want to hear it or not.

This is a difficult one to answer for many couples. How it is with me and my spouse is we have come to an understanding. I usually will find things out later and get angry about it, but then she tells me that is the reason for not telling me.

We have sat down and discussed controlling our feelings and to listen first and not to react but to understand first and then try to be understood in a calm and respectful way. This is allowing our relationship to be open and honest in all aspects. Ts mainly pertains to our raising our children and our children's goings-on and whatnot.

We are honest in every aspect as it helps to have both of us on the same page. Not reacting to ensure your spouse's trust is critical......

I was very idealistically open with my first spouse and he used that against me when we got divorced. He took my childhood journals with him to my pastor and asked the man to ban me from the church because of all the sins I had committed! My ex actually had put sticky notes in the places he pointed out to the pastor - he returned the journals to me 6 years after our divorce.

I was so freaked out and violated by the experience I destroyed them all. While I was frankly honest with my second husband, I couldn't tell him everything that was in those journals because I didn't remember and I'd already destroyed them. My second husband broke my heart with his covert drug addiction.

He left me. I would love to find someone I could be honest with, radically honest, but clearly what ever relationships are, I s*ck at them :(.

Some answers to your mate will create misunderstandings unless you can always say what you have to say without being rude, harsh and or unloving. Being honest is healthy! Its how you say it that matters.

Some people will react unfavorably to your honesty no matter how you say what you are saying! Remember its the motive that counts. The result of the honesty is what really matters.

I think "keeping a secret" is entirely different from sharing every last detail with my significant other. We both share a lot with each other - we have no boundaries. Because of that we benefit from a high level of comfort being that we know we'll never meet with any judgment or criticism.

However, we also believe it's important to maintain some kind of individuality and personal identity by not including the other in every single facet of our life. As for money, we discuss our financial goals to make sure we're on the same page. As long as we're both doing our part, we don't nitpick with daily spending.

The critical issue is how the both of you believe money should be used. That will dictate how you choose to use it. If one of you believes money is for "playing hard" while the other believes it's for savings/investing, then frustration is guaranteed.

I don't know what to tell you about secrets - it's a case by case basis. What I will say is this: I kept certain "secrets" from my significant other for quite some time. One day, I decided to be true to myself (why hide who I really am) and confide in her.

I quickly learned that she too had the same "dark secrets", and the both of us were so relieved! We no longer felt guilty as if we were hiding something from each other. As a result, our relationship has exploded in a new direction and we're happier (and closer) than ever before.

Always ask yourself two questions, and you'll find the best answer: Do I feel guilty for keeping this to myself? Am I hiding part of who I am by keeping this "secret"?

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