Boyfriend and female friend claim are "just friends" in spite of their behavior - do I go with my gut or query the issue?

Boyfriend and female friend claim are "just friends" in spite of their behavior - do I go with my gut or query the issue She makes sexual comments about his body ("cute little butt") in front of me and shows up unannounced at breakfast to visit. I feel this is innappropriate - he says I am making a big deal about her comments because she's the "crass" type. I asked him to communicate my discomfort to her, but he had major heartburn doing so She told him I am "petty" and she justified her actions.

I feel her behavior is disrespectful, even if they have been friends for 3 years. The tenderness in their speech and the body language to me suggests there were lovers, but he swears they have always been only friends. It is interfering in my trust in their friendship.

He now keeps their communication a secret from me. Where do I go with this? My gut says otherwise, and I am getting very confused.

I think this is an unhealthy situation, but he values her friendship. She is generous with him and gives him "things" to keep him loyal. He becomes angered when I question their relationship.

Asked by Dynamite 40 months ago Similar questions: Boyfriend female friend claim friends spite behavior gut query issue Lifestyle > Relationships.

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Go with your gut. It seems that it is an unhealthy situation, even if he is telling the truth about their relationship. If he is telling the truth about their relationship, it is a matter of time before your gut intuition becomes a reality.(My opinion) Either way, you are the 2d ranking woman in his life & are unlikely to become #1, even if he were to marry you.(again my opinion) The past is irrelevant, but the present is very relevant & this is all that need be considered.

He has not placed you first in his life, your gut is giving you the correct message, even if he is telling the truth, which I doubt. Present him with his "walking papers". Take some time & find someone who wants only you.

Take Care of Yourself & Good Luck..

Gut feeling There is much to say about a gut feeling. You ever feel like you forgot something and come to find out you left you oven on? I believe gut feeling.

When you talk, he know that you are jealous and she know so also; from personal experience if they don't have enough respect on your feeling of the situation to mellow it down, then there is or was something more in that relationship. I personally am a very jealous person, so my husband know what he can and cant say, who he can joke with and who he cant without hurting my feeling. Some women can be very flirting, it is in their nature... but unless they like you jealous attitude toward it and are antagonizing you, typically they lay off when they realize that is can be a threat to your relationship with your boyfriend.

I think may be it is time to give ultimatum, because this is obviously bother enough for you that you will ask other people for advice. Tell him how you feel like it is hurt you for him to be O K with somthing that make you so uncomfortable.... I hope this help you.

I would go with your gut... It's clear that you are in an inclusive relationship with him and he isn't committing. You can't force someone to commit so your only option is to ask him to commit in such a way as to make things clear. He will think that you are a bitch but you are just asking for something that he doesn't want to give.

Plus, I don't think that she is your friend if she is interfering in your relationship with your man. Where is her loyalty? Sorry but I think you need to find something better.

I know it hurts but you'll be glad later that you didn't waste a ton of time with them. Sources: self .

Go with your gut what your gut tells you is true. They both are disrespecting you right in your face. Dump him immediately.

There are other available men who will be respectful and honorable towards you. Once he sees that you are passive, submissive, and docile the situation will get worse. And there will be other issues and not in your favor.

He will and is using you as a doormat as well as his girlfriend. If this is YOUR HOME, ask them both to leave. Good luck and GOD bless .

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