Can a gay man be attracted to a specific girl, but not women in general, and still be gay, not bi?

I'm curious if you have watched Brokeback Mountain. The movie is about two men who fall in love, yet they both end up getting married and fathering children. It might give you some idea of what kind of emotions might go into what you are talking about.It is very possible for a gay man to be in love with a woman.

It will just never end up being on a sexual level, and it probably won't be without him having male partners on the side. I'm not going to speak for women, because I wouldn't know how they feel. But, I know plenty of married and formerly married gay men.

It is not uncommon for a man to realize that he is gay after he decides to marry. And, some marry because they don't want anyone to know that they are gay, and really don't even want to admit it to themselves. Being gay is more complicated then people think.

I'd like to suggest a reference to the Kinsey scale, and if not that, a hypothetical scale of values ranging from 1 to 10. 1 would represent the extreme of heterosexuality and 10 would represent the extreme of homosexuality. Sounds like you're a 9.5 on that scale from what you describe.

Yeah, this was kinda along the lines of what I was thinking. Personally, I think sexuality is too complicated to simply box into labels. But as a straight female, I can't really speak for other people in that theory.

Hence why I asked the question. Thanks for all your answers. :).

Sexuality is different for every person. While the general sexual urges tend to fall in very specific categories (gay, straight, bi, etc. ), there is a lot more going on than just that. I have seen and known several completely gay men be "in love" with a woman, but it's the friendship that they love.

There's no sex or feelings of devotion that might come with two people being in a sexual relationship. The "love" is one shared by friends, nothing more.As a label definition, where it crosses the line of no longer being gay, but being bi, is when a guy enjoys having sexual relations with both men and women. To love the physical aspect of the relationship as well as the friendship, going beyond mere experimentation.

I've known men who identify as being gay, but they also had a long marriage (and even children) with one specific female. The key is "men who identify as being gay. "In summation, it's how one identifies their own self and not a case of something "making" or "turning" someone to be bisexual.

It's just something you enjoy doing, or you don't- but everyone gets to make their own label. Hope that helps!

I wonder why so many people put so much on the terms. Who cares if you are gay or straight or bi or transgendered. If we are all fighting for equality then why is it we continue to insist on pointing out how different we all are?

If you love someone, you love them. If you are attracted to them, then you just are. It doesn't take away from who you are if you aren't only your sexual orientation.

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If the attraction is sexual then the person is bisexual or in denial of their bisexuality. Bisexuality is much more common than people think. Generally one will be more attracted to one sex than the other.It can go either way... very few bisexuals are attracted equally to both sexes.

hubpages.com/hub/Butch-talks-about-being-bi.

As a gay man married now 21+ years to a woman; my answer would be "yes" apsolutlely. I personally don't beleive in the "lables". I beleive that human's are just sexual in nature.

I truly love my wife and we have an active sexual intimacy, however, If I were to be single again my natural inclination would be attracted to men. Its about the person, energy, and the ability to have your emotional and spiritual needs met with in the relationship. I am attracted to my wife because of our friendship/love, history, and the way she takes care of me and us caring for eachother in this life.

This doesn't negate my desire for men or lusting, But in the end my relationship and commitment to the person is more important and much more powerfull than the superficial fleeting and unfullfilling life style based on stereotypes. This is not to say that I couldnt or wouldnt find the same life nurisishing and fullfilling relationship with a man, I just have never met a that man that can fill those needs for me. So does this make me bisexual, I don't beleive so, I am not equally attracted to both sexes.equally.

Does this make me Gay? Not really, as I am in a manogams relationship with a woman and not activly seeing a man or unfulfilled as a result. So In my estimation that just makes me human, just like everyone else, lookig for love and security in this life......

I would like to believe so. If we would deny that a person can be attracted to both sexes then we would be denying the existence of bisexuals. Plus, I have friends who are from all girls schools in the city who during their high school year had relationships with their classmates.

But eventually got married with a man and had a family. And I think this happens with men too. However, this is one of those things that is common knowledge for us, but do not talk about.

Depends on what kind of the person it is, whether she can not look at the girl or how deeply hate the girls.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.