Dear Senior Citizens,what is your opinion on this?

Don't just fade off into the wood works, my dear. I did this with my first husband. I was the stay at home wife and mother and he was the University student and also the career person.

I felt like I was nothing compared to him and really, he did nothing to make me feel any differently. I finally went out and got a night job, and he made me feel so guilty I quit only after a week. By the time our marriage ended, I did not have my own identity.

I remember when someone asked me what my favorite color was and I said, "I don't know." I didn't know anything about myself. Stand up for yourself and be assertive.

Make yourself be yourself. You're only in your 4th year of marriage and in the early years is where you lay a foundation. Let that foundation be love, honour, and strength.

As far as your husband stealing your one liners, it shows that he likes your sense of humor since he probably doesn't have one as strong as yours. Remember that he does love you and he is just as much getting used to you as you are to him. You two are forging a oneness and that oftentimes can be a bit hard.

Also, with his asking you questions tells me that he can be himself around you. With others it might be that he is just keeping up an image. You know that image isn't who he really is.

It is just a part of him. You know him better than anyone else. Enjoy your marriage and don't sweat the small stuff.

However, be strong and like I hinted at before, make your own identity. Together your marriage will work.

You seem to feel that your husband is your enemy and not a friend. And part of your family. If some part of the family takes credit for the goodness of some other part of it , it is the family that benefits and it is the family that should be happy about it .

Neither you nor your husband should think as an isolated part of the family. May be ,it is the Impact the western civilisation that leads to the sort of thoughts that seem to exist now . Characters and behaviours are ingrained in blood and no drastic changes can be expected of the behaviour of any individual including you and your husband from what you have imbibed from the ambiance the upbringing .. So if you think that the behaviour of your husband is not to your liking and is affecting you .

You would better divorce him and remarry some one who will be to your expectation. If you find that the one you remarry is also not to your expectation in course of time or if that man does not find you to his expectation second divorce may be done and some other person might be tried by both of you ..So a total western type of life can be adopted till both the partners find the most pe Perfect partners if possible in this life . This should be the only solution if people expect perfect partners and should spend their entire life in trying to find their level if possible .

Lest, like the good -for -nothing traditional indians ( according to your thought ) get on with what one has . The Indian thought is if you do not get what you want , be happy with what you have got . The promise the Indian Hindus make at the time of tying the knot ( that he / she would be together through thick and thin is outdated and far from the western civilization).

We are unable to tolerate the deficiencies in our partners . No one here would like to die for not getting what he / she likes best but would like to be happy with what he / she has got . It is the mentality that is the cause of all botheration.. Here it is ego and intolerance for nothing that are the cause of botheration.

Eradicate them if you think that that it would make life happier .

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.