Do you think, when one begins to lack fulfilling their role in their marriage that causes the other to stray?

It's not acceptable to cheat and it's not acceptable to lie. Claiming one cheated, even if it's to get someone to shut-up because they constantly wrongly accuse you, doesn't improve the situation. What's your question, Ray?

Clearly you and the wife need some help with communicating with each other better, and trust. If you question her all the time, it sounds like you don't trust her. You need to work together to determine why you don't trust her, and whether that situation can be improved or not.

If you are justified in not trusting her, she may need to change her behavior. If you are not justified in not trusting her, then you need to learn to trust until given a valid reason not to. A marriage counselor may be able to help you two, if you can't work things out together.

Without trust, there is no foundation to your relationship.

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