Does anyone know the origin of the phrase: "s/he's got a hole in her/his donut"?

Well, here is a link to an origin of the phrase "doughnut hole". As you can see from that article, one use of the phrase is to denote something missing. In particular, the missing matter is likely to be "dough" or money.

However, your relatives were probably referring to the slang of "nut" for head, meaning that the person was empty-headed. There is also an old joke about people being so ignorant that they complain about doughnuts because of their holes; but, that doesn't fit your usage.

I believe it means you have a hole in your head, or you are stupid, or lacking in common sense. As far a a definitive origin of the word, There is no mention of that particular phrase but here is an entire article on doughnut hole related phrases nytimes.com/2007/02/25/magazine/25wwlnsa....

Given that the phrase "hole in his donut" produces only eight google results, I think it's pretty safe to say that it's something your grandfather or mother made up. Did they mean it to mean "Dumb"? Because that's what the phrase sounds like.

Many phrases that my parents are using are distorted. I guess that when they were little, they would use twists of the wittiest quotest around, for bonus points on originality. So I guess this is what happened with the donut.

:) This is just a clever and cute way for your parents to tell you that you've gone off the charts. :).

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.