Have I been verbally/emotionally abused my entire life? Please help. Thank you.?

Wow that sounds like a pretty emotional/ huge fight you had. Does it happen often? I think maybe at 14 years old your parents are finding it hard because as an only child they have no other kids to compare you to, and they might be taking out their frustrations on you.

It's no excuse for their behaviour, but it might be why they just rant at you because maybe they expect you to be an adult (if you look like one) and then when you react appropriate to your age they get pissed off... again, that's no an excuse for them to ever say those horrible things. I agree that Dad's and daughters have especially strange relationships and arguments, but it seems that his attitude of 'If I'm happy everyone's happy" doesn't really make sense? Does he drink or use drugs?

Does he work in a stressful job? Maybe these things are getting him down/ angry and he's taking his worries out in the form of being moody. If you spoke to a school counsellor you could say you had a bad argument with your parents and then explain that you just need to get it off your chest.

Your counsellor shouldn't contact them, especially if you explain that you'd rather it be kept private.... they should only intervene when you're at physical risk/ danger. Maybe stay out of your parent's hair for a while and be quieter than usual, stay in your room more and keep on with your homework. Prove to them that you're mature and that whatever they've said to you you;re just going to deal with it like an adult.

That way you can avoid further argument and also stay out of their firing line. I hope you feel better soon Kate.

This is a no brainer. You ARE being abused! And by both parents.

But while this is very wrong you need to ask yourself what part you play into this. Are you placing demands for material things from your parents? Do you speak respectfully to them?

Are you doing your fair share of the chores around the house? Do you endeavor to lighten their load or are you adding to their load? If you can change some things for the better in your home then you might see a change in your parents as well.

If after honesty trying to make an improvement in yourself and your attitude towards them, and trying to pick up the work load at home so as to bring them some relief, they still continue to bad mouth you and berate you, then please take the advice of your friend and talk to a school counselor or trusted religious adviser like a preacher, priest, or rabbi.

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