Have you ever give someone a compliment (not askville) and been embarassed by their response? (see details)?

(see details) Before I retired I worked with a woman who I would talk to once in a while. Not actually what I would call a close friend since she worked in another department. Once in the ladies room, I saw her their with a little girl abotu six years old.

I said oh is that your daughter? She said yes. Then I said, she looks a lot like you.

She answered back, I am surpised you would say that since she is adopted. I felt like a real jerk but honestly she did look like her adopted mother. Asked by LouLou 2 months ago Similar questions: give compliment askville embarassed response details Amazon > Askville.

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It was tasteless of her to respond that way. Ldren adopt the mannerisms of the people who they identify with as family, so its not unusual to see a resemblance even in an adopted child. One is simply processing the incoming visual information and it registers as a likeness.

You should not have felt like a jerk. I just rather sorry for the little girl.

If the girl resembled her adopted mother , no fair no fowl , you told the truth and I am sure you had called it as you saw it. I also think the woman might be happy to hear there was a resemblance between her and her daughter, it would not be a bad thing in any way for them to look like family, so your good as see it. Take care -B.

I was speechless and that is saying something coming from me. :) LouLou 2 months ago .

Long time no see IOU. LouLou 2 months ago .

I am always here , just quiet most of the time. Good to see you , hope all went well with the storm a few weeks ago.

Maxinmum20 said and I agree "It was tasteless of her to respond that way. "That nails the real problem here and the problem was with the mother of that child, it was without merit or class for her to say that. She had no business framing her response like that.

I feel bad for the child and wonder what this woman is thinking.

There was no harm done. You told the truth because the child looked like her mother. It was the woman who could not take your compliment.

I agree with Max. Some people don't realize a compliment when they hear one. Her fault not yours.

I could not have said it better. Max hit it on the head it was in bad taste on the mother's part.

I'm sure that even though the child looked about 6 that even she may have been a bit shocked herself. Children to take things in. Her mother's comment could have made the girl think to herself "What is that suppose to mean?!

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The reason I say that is because my sister in law found out in a terrible way that she was adopted. At the time my ex husband's sister was 8 years old. Her mother and she went to the airport to pick up some relatives of hers who had just came into town.

They had not seen each other in years. Well while my little sister in law and then mother in law waited for them to get off the plane. The first thing one relative blurted out was "Where is the girl that you adopted.Is that her"!

Well my sister in law looked at her mom and said I'm adopted?. She did not know. And had not been told that she was adopted.

I realize this has nothing to do with the compliment. But children are smarter then what some adults give them credit for. The mother of the little girl behaved poorly in front of her.

A remark about the child looking like her could have been hurtful to the child. You gave a good compliment to the woman. She responded kind of nasty towards you and at the same time IMO hurt the little girl's feelings.

Boy,I hope she's not up for mother of the year award.

Gee what a sad story. That poor little girl to find out that way that she was adopted. LouLou 2 months ago .

Children have feelings. In the case of the mother that you gave the compliment to. She didn't care about the way she answered you or care about how the girl was going to take that remark.

That is one remark that child is going to remember. My former sister in law is an adult now. And she still remembers how she found out and how it hurt her.

How frickin rude of her, I can't imagine the pain that would have caused her daughter, a constant reminder that she isn't the womans real daughter, only an adopted child therefore not worth much. It almost sounds like she's ashamed of her adopted daughter, :-( .

I'm not; she looks like you. A lot. " Sometimes the arrogant response needs to be shut down with the truth, ya know?

See details. " "Is it possible to include a PowerPoint presentation in a response on Askville? " "The Mayor's lame response has pretty well put a halt to all give-and-take DBs.

Of what GOOD is Askville any more? " "Yet another Askville glitch? (See details)" "In this Askville website, is giving a compliment helpful to get more quest coins or anything?" "I am new to askville.

Do I compliment all who answered a question. Or just the most helpful?" "What would you do if there came a "Force Compliment" feature to Askville?

The Mayor's lame response has pretty well put a halt to all give-and-take DBs. Of what GOOD is Askville any more?

I am new to askville. Do I compliment all who answered a question. Or just the most helpful?

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