Hello, I have been in a relationship for 5 years with my husband (married for 3 years), we have one daughter 3 years of?

I have been in a relationship for 5 years with my husband (married for 3 years), we have one daughter 3 years of I have been in a relationship for 5 years with my husband (married for 3 years), we have one daughter 3 years of age together and a 7 years old who is mine. He is very attentive and caring toward me and our daughters. But for some reason, I can't seem to love him as much as he does.

I think that he often suspect this and ask me if I truly love him. I answer yes, but the truth is that I am not convinced either. What I know is that I am not passionately in love with him but I believe I love him because I care very much about him and often miss him when he's not around.

Only no butterflies, or any type of excitment I've had in the past (like for my 1st daughter's dad or even another man I once dated in the past). Is that normal and healthy that I feel this way? Asked by mimiltn 27 months ago Similar questions: relationship years husband married daughter Lifestyle > Relationships.

Similar questions: relationship years husband married daughter.

Yes, it is normal. You have to make a decision as to whether you are going to throw away what you have for a thrill that may not last. I was dating two men at one time once: one who I had a very torrid passion with, the other a nice guy, who was the same religion and nationality and whom I liked very much.

The nice one asked me to marry him, and I turned him down for the one that I had a passionate love affair with. One day I found out that the love of my life was seeing a couple of other women as well, he lied to me, and then one day left town. In so doing, he left all of us.

He never wanted to get married, just live with me, while the other man loved me the right way. I will always regret my decision because my life would have been so very different had I used my head instead of my heart which is located too far from your brain. Don't jeopardize what you have for a shooting star.

You will be left to raise your children alone. Many women would give a great deal to have what you do. I think if you lost him, you'd find out just how much you do care, and that someone who treats you that way is hard to replace..

You may have entered the 'comfort zone'..... It’s wonderful to remember the ’hormonal’ flushes of our teens and twenties...when just the sound of the phone ringing would set off butterflies in our stomaches...the flush in our cheeks from the anticipation of him walking through the door....the passion that makes your head spin.... Then, life happens....time passes, you become ’familiar’ with each other...and the love grows deeper, beyond the ’teenaged flutters’ and more into a settled routine. Reality happens....work, responsibilities, children...cleaning, shopping, cooking....laundry....bills.... I call it the ’comfort zone’. The time in life where you are both secure in each others love....you’re ’there’ for each other through good and bad times.... I think I know what you’re feeling.

Sometimes, I look across the table at my husband and wonder if I love him.....there are no ’fireworks’ like in the beginning....I don’t giggle with excitement when he’s coming home... BUT...then I think of what my life would be like without him...he’s my ’rock’. What if HE wanted that old excitement with someone new? What IF he died in an accident?

Then I get a pretty clear answer...I just love him deeply, more as a soul-mate...a partner in life...a team player, a best friend. I think it’s perfectly normal the way you’re feeling. It sounds as though your relationship has ’matured’ into something solid and comfortable.

He sounds like one heck of a great catch....an attentive husband, a loving father. Maybe if you did something special for him now and then...he’d feel more appreciated...like cooking his favorite dinner or desert....show your love for him in little ways.

There are lots of different kinds of love and so you are looking at romantic or sexual love as the benchmark, rather than other things like quality time and him being a great parent and husband. Also, as we get older we learn to relax more and not treat the partner as though they are essential to us every waking minute of the day. It is good to have some space and not be so 'needy' but there are also a lot of things you can do to foster the excitement, especially romantically.Be fortunate you have such a great guy and try not to worry about things that aren't there.

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It sounds like you do truly love him, but may it be possible you are not 'in love' with him anymore.. Maybe if you look closely at your question, you'll get your answer :) Marriage is always work, 24/7, even in the best relationships. And certainly you may not get the same butterflies or excitement you got when you were first together, but you should still have those same feelings you had when you first fell in love with him, they are always there. It's best you speak to him, he must be sensing something like you said and you may feel a big weight lifted off your shoulders if you are honest with your feelings with both him and yourself!

I am married to my best friend, we have 2 beautiful young sons and he is wonderful to us. We have a great marriage, we communicate but also fight like any couple does (which I feel is more healthy to not necessarily "fight" but to talk about things and not hold them in). I was married before and that relationship was quite unhealthy, as we never really talked about anything if it was negative, and I believe we fell out of love with each other, too.

Thankfully, I am in a much, much better relationship now as I said and my other relationship was not meant to be. I think you need to talk to him and even though it may be the hardest thing you do, let him know exactly what you're feeling at that moment even if some feelings may get hurt (as hard as that sounds). No relationship is perfect, but if you're not convinced yourself that you truly love him, it's best to figure it out.

Looking into some counseling whether it's together or just for yourself may not be a bad idea either. Good luck to you and keep your head up - just take one moment at a time and it will all work out for your and your daughters in the end :) .

You have fallen victim to our experience-centered definition of "love. " In fact, love is what you do, not what you feel. "I care very much about him and often miss him when he's not around." "He is very attentive and caring toward me and our daughters.

" You love him. While your love might be like a Vulcan's love, loyal but without those pesky feelings that complicate everything, you still love him. Don't do anything to change that.

I don't get it. " "my daughter is married and has two small children. The daughter isn't so sure she wants to remain married" "Why is a relationship so hard to maintain?

Why don't relationships last these days? " "hi. I am 30 years old .

I have a relationship with an 23 year old for 2 years. He wants to get married next year" "Been married for 16 years, my husband is cheating for the second time. I found out through his facebook page.

" "My husband is several addicated to cyper porn. We have been married for 25 years. What do I do, he said he cant stop.

" " I have a question on "sex", I am married for 29 years,and my husband seems uninterested in having sex? How many times.

My daughter is married and has two small children. The daughter isn't so sure she wants to remain married.

I am 30 years old . I have a relationship with an 23 year old for 2 years. He wants to get married next year.

Been married for 16 years, my husband is cheating for the second time. I found out through his facebook page.

My husband is several addicated to cyper porn. We have been married for 25 years. What do I do, he said he cant stop.

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