HELP! my 16 year old friend pregnant and is relying on me for help, but im only 17, help me, how do I help her?

A baby is a HUGE resposibility when I got pregnant the first time I didn't plan it it just happened my boyfriend step up and wanted to be with me and our baby but after weeks that I found out I was pregnant I lost the baby so I talked to him and told him that we should split up him go back living the way he was when we where going out that we ccould just pretend it never happened I was really young I was 16 he was 18 he worked and lived by himself he earns from 500 to 700 a week but he didint want to and we stayed together after 2 months we got married it was the happiest day of my life well anyways he really wanted to have a baby so we tried and tried until after a month that we got married I got pregnant he was always with me since my first doc appt. Every ultrasound evrything he was always their when I gave birth he took care of our baby while a slept all night even if the baby was a sleep he will pick her up and sleep with her in a little bed that was in the room for him to stay with me everything was perfect UNTIL BAABY WOULDNT SLEEP AT NIGHT I WAS VERY TIRED I HAD TO TAKE CARE OF HER ALL NIGHT AND HE WOULD BE SLEEPING THAT MADE ME REALLY MAD BECAUSE I WANTED TO SLEEP TOO AND BABY WOULDNT STOP CRYING BUT NOW I UNDERSTAND THAT HE HAD TO WORK BUT ANYWAYS DIAPERS MILK WIPES THAT WASNT A PROBLEM SINCE HE WON PLENTY OF MONEY FOR THE BOTH OF US BUT A BABY IS NOT CHEAP well our baby is 2 years now I finished high school and now im a home wife mommy 24/7 and im not going to lie I LOVE BEING A MOMMY I lost all my friends since my priority is mu hubby and my baby now the friends I have are friends of him and his friends wifes are my friends they are older than me well not that old about five years but anyways my point I DONT THINK ANY WOMEN CAN BE READY TO HAVE A BABY UNTIL THEY HAVE IT NO MATTER IF YOUR 13 OR 40 A BABY IS A BIG RESPOSIBILITY BUT IS NOT IMPOSSIBLE I DID IT IM 19 NOW EXPECTING OUR SECOND BABY WE MIGHT NOT BE THE PERFECT FAMILY BUT IM REALLY HAPPY AND I WOULD NEVER CHANGE MY DAUGHTER FOR ANYTHING SHES THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME THE BEST GIFT I EVER HAD I WAS 17 WHEN I HAD HER I HAD HER ON MY BIRTHDAY! ; BEST ONE I EVER HAD WELL GOOD LUCK AND I WISH YOU THE BEST IFF YOU DICIDE HAVE IT NOW OR LATER I HOPE EVERYTHING COMES OUT GREAT FOR YOU.

Once again, that's not long. 5 months compared to 216 months that you would be committed to this guy? In reality, it would be the life of your child or each other even if things turn sour.

Also, arguments? You want to know the last time I argued with my boyfriend of 9 months? Not once and we live together.

However, we both make significant amount of money and can afford the house, the dog, his trucks/motocycles, my car and Jeep, and other entertainment. It's not realistic to not argue ever and some point we'll probably argue, but we're both mature enough to not fight. Having a lot of little fights is just as bad as huge fights.

It's still fights. 550 dollars a month? You're joking right?

I make more than that in a week after taxes. That 550 dollars a month is just enough to cover rent. Add in other expenses like car payment, utilities, food, gas, etc and do you think you would make enough to cover the two of you living alone let alone adding in another person who will require food, clothes, daycare, new clothes and furniture, etc? Also, what job is working 11 dollars an hour?

Is it something he could do for the next ten years? Will she be flexible in letting him work enough to support you and the baby? What happens if her work becomes slow?

Next thing is let's see him actually get the job and not just talking about it. If he can keep the job for at least a year, maybe consider it but then what about he? He may be able to cover his expenses but what about the additional expenses of you and the baby?

So basically you are trying to get pregnant. You mention he does after school sports and does well. You are basically asking him to give up those sports and chance of going to a good university.

Why don't you be less selfish and wait till you are both in a better position to have a baby? Are you scared he'll leave you? Also, I hate to point it out but you should be spending time with friends other than just your partner.

Make new friends and spend time with them. As for your gut feeling, you do realize that not using protection and not using condoms is the same thing as trying to have a baby? Hence you will probably get pregnant within a year.

Hopefully your boyfriend will have enough sense to say "let's wait till we can afford a family." Its nice that you want to play house but your post still shows you lack the maturity in regards to financial matters. How about you two move in together and try to pay for everything 100%?

Chances are you will be broke within the first month and fighting. Wait till you can actually afford a family. At the end of day, it's up to you.

Try this experience in playing house. Set up a fake account and pay 200 dollars into it every month. Ask your parents how much the utilities are and divide that by the number of people in your house.

Add that that amount into your account. Then calculate how much food you eat each month and add that into an account. Add in your cellphone.

Anytime your mom drives you somewhere, ask her how many miles it is and ask her how many miles per gallon she gets for her car. Calculate out the cost of gas each month and throw it into a savings account. If you have any entertainment for the month, throw it into a savings account.

Ask your boyfriend to do the same. If you both have money left over in your original savings account at the end of the summer, consider taking it a step further and calculating the cost of daycare, diapers, and formula. See how long you will last then.

If you plan on leeching off your parents after you decide to have a baby, then you are selfish and a brat. There's a difference between not knowing having sex without protection or using birth control will lead to a baby and actually purposely making that decision when you cannot afford a baby.

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