High sex drive/low sex drive?

Hi... I know why you're not interested in sex right now... it's going to change later... but right now you have two small children. Your focus has switched over to nurturing the kids. And after a woman has children, and while they are still young and have to be attended to all the time, the woman's hormone levels decrease.... this is the way of Mother Nature.

You are tired, and you say stressed... Well, it's hard work raising and chasing after small children. And yes, you still love your husband and are attracted to him. Now let's look at this from your husband's perspective.

He's a young man, and young men have quite a sex drive. Just because you and he have kids, this doesn't mean his sex drive has decreased. It's probably much the same as it was before the kids came along.

Therefore, he still has the desire for sex. When a couple has kids, the man often feels left out in the cold..... he doesn't get the affection and attention he desires, nor does he get a lot of sex. I'm going to tell you that what all this leads to is the daddy feeling very LONELY and neglected.

I know how it is going for YOU because I had children too. But I realized my husband was left out in the cold, so I still had sex with him. And in fact, I initiated it.

I decided that 20 minutes out of my evening, 2-3 times a week was worth the effort. It helped him to feel more appreciated, believe it or not. And our relationship was closer because of the sex.

Emotional and physical intimacy are the glue which holds two people together. And if you have sex, you're going to get into it most of the time, after just a few minutes. Try it!

And take care.

You may have a medical condition and should talk to your doctor about that. Also, when you DO have sex do you enjoy it? What do you mean you "can't please your husband"?

What you meant to say is that you REFUSE to please your husband because you are never in the mood. If you are looking to raise your children from separate places, go ahead and keep this attitude. You know you're allowed to have sex when you're not in the mood.

Best case scenario is that you get in the mood and remember what you're missing. Worst case scenario is that you have a happy satisfied husband. What is it you think you're accomplishing by not having sex?

Until your doctor advises you on what to do to get your sex drive back, I suggest you initiate sex with your husband and don't refuse him. There are worse chores we have to do when part of a family. If one keeps your partner happy and feeling loved, I think there is a big upside.

Women with high sex drives certainly exist and the ones that do typically have it higher then any man can satisfy. As guys we can typically orgasm twice a day, and after doing that we start shooting blanks after a few days. There are some women that want sex every day multiple times a day 7 days a week.

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