Well I am over protective and do not apologize for it. I have a problem not having my 7 year old and 4 year old in sight. They are very fortunate parents have never known or known someone that had a negative situation occur.
I lived in a subdivision where too many kids roamed. We are talking out in front at 3 years old and Mom is inside. My husband found a two year old wandering while at the park with my daughter and walked him home.
We had to knock on doors to find whose home he belonged to-we were new. The community was too relaxed for me and the day an attempted abduction occurred I was amazed how after a week parents were back to normal but still talking about it. As if those that are disturb only "hunt" within a mile of their home.
They are every where especially a subdivsion full of kids. They know no boundaries! They watch schools and parks.
I would be uncomfortable with someone who does not supervise kids. I would have them at my home or I would garden in front or something a few doors down to be subtly supervising. My child.
As for coming home alone she does not ask or watch? Yikes! I use to walk peoples kids home and deliver them to their door directly.
If they do not do the same I ask what time I should pick my kid up and I go there. Not overprotective in my book . You let him outside and he can play with us.
Your child's teacher or bus driver is not allowed to leave your child unsupervised so why should your neighbor? To reassure yourself look up your particular state rules for kids of what age being without supervision etc. You are not extreme. Sometimes the government made laws for a reason Sorry I am a former teacher and it is not ok to let someone else kid walk home without supervision Good luck you're a good mom.
Well, my issue with my 6.5 year old going to visit is that I can't get him to get back easily and he doesn't read clocks yet - otherwise he'd be visiting our neighbors. Essentially if I don't keep him in our yard or he can circle the block on his bike is because he will stay gone for too long and with two other kids it is a pain to try to find him. So I'd say you are neither too protective nor are the neighbors too lenient, people are scared for stupid reasons.
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