How can grief and depression make me more loving?

A heartbreak denied leads to death in life. Your heart will harden if you attempt to stave off the pain you know is there. In contrast, if you go to the ends of your own heartaches during grief and depression, you will carve out depths that contain vast amounts of loving energy.

The pain etches deep valleys in your heart, and these valleys measure the span of your ability to love. Having weathered a loss you will reach your own deepest capacity for loving others. Our current culture's promotion of chronic self-improvement as the path to finding love and healing may have it all wrong.

It may be that you don't find love by becoming a shinier, happier person. You find love not by becoming more lovable but ultimately by becoming more loving. You do this by honoring every movement of your heart, and that means facing the ache of loss.

We can thank depression for making this possible. We would probably never choose to face these losses if depression didn't stop us in our tracks and force us to focus on what's most important.

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