How can I best handle the temper tantrums of my ADHD-diagnosed child?
In a word...don't. Your child is having the tantrum to get something, or to get out of something (i.e. Attention seeking, task avoidance..etc.).
If you react to the tantrum you are positively reinforcing the behavior. For example, lets say your child wants a food item, and you have said no. If the child throws a tantrum and you then give in, to end the tantrum, you have taught him/her that if they are willing to throw a tantrum you will give in.
If the child wants your attention and you are involved in something else, if s/he throws a tantrum and you stop even to yell at him/her to stop, you have given him/her what they want. Best thing is prevention. You need to decide what is important enough that you are willing to weather a tantrum, and you also need to give the child something that will encourage him/her not to have a tantrum.
For example...lets say s/he wants a cookie, before you say no you need to decide how important it is. If you are not willing to weather a tantrum then simply say yes. If you are willing to weather the storm then offer him/her something else in hopes that they will be appeased enough to not throw the tantrum.
"No you cannot have a cookie, but you can have a banana. " or "No you cannot have a cookie right now, but after supper you may." I hope that is helpful.
Sometimes parents ask me if there are ways to stop child temper tantrums from happening. I don’t really think there are—I think it’s natural to have tantrums. We adults have them all the time.
We can lose our temper when someone cuts us off in traffic or when our kids don’t listen. Maturing is all about managing our emotions more effectively, and it’s a lifetime project. In my opinion, we can’t prevent tantrums, but we can impact how often and how long they go on by the way we respond to our children’s outbursts.
I think when our children feel that we need them to behave “our way” in order for us to feel calm, it’s a natural reaction for them to become defensive. You’ll see an attitude of, “Oh yeah? Nobody can tell me what to do.”.
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