How can I help my wife with an unplanned pregnancy?

I don't think it will ruin your marriage if you have one child. He will get over it. I think maybe he forgot that you have already given up your body for the first child (like pregnancy stretch marks, gaining weight which you successfully lost, hormones, and the birth or c-section of the child themselves...also morning sickness and all kinds of other things).

I believe you when you say you have worked hard to get to where you are now. I have a son, and previously wanted 2 kids, but after SO much work I feel like I never want to go through that ever again. I love my son, but I am SO happy at the point where we are at now.

My husband hinted a 2nd child, and I told him I needed more time to think about it, but I also asked him straight up "would you be alright if I said no, though" and he said yes that would be fine. He didn't leave me :P Your husband already has a child who he should be greatful for. Personally I didn't like pregnancy or those newborn days and all the hormones involved before I even started to feel normal again (oh and the sleepless nights).

I think it would be cute for my son to have a sibling...but thinking something is "cute" isn't a good reason for me to do it all over again. Personally, I just don't want to right now. Maybe I will change my mind.

It's not selfish. Don't ever bring a child into the world if you don't want to, don't do it for anyone else either. It's not mean, it's not selfish.

As for the people saying you should have talked about this before....well in my case, we both did. Once you become parents feelings can change. You might want to be one and done...or you might want to have 5 kids suddenly!

Just do what is right for your happiness with the child you do have. :).

Thanks for your question. My wife and I have a friend that is going through the same predicament. She wants more kids and the husband does not.

This is difficult because if you and your husband agreed prior to marriage to have X amount of kids, and now that’s changed, this could be something that needs to be discussed (worked out in counseling.) Only you know what your limits are and the best thing is to explain that to the people that love you most. If you are stressed out all the time how is that going to be a good environment for more children in your home? A local Christian church might have some couples counseling services if you need further advice.

I will say a prayer for you. God bless.

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