How do I curb obsessive hypothetical relationship thoughts?

This sounds pretty normal to me. Especially because you note that it's only in the initial infatuation sort of phase and that they don't last. You don't say how old you are or how much relationship experience you have.

The obsession does grow less as you grow older and more secure that your life is going to be awesome regardless of what happens with your latest crush. But even with that being said - I'm nearly 40, and when I or my friends have begun new relationships, we've checked email constantly too, and had OMG! -type feelings.

I think that life experience may solve this for you. Even though we all will always feel excited about new romantic prospects, your own heart will put the brakes on for you as you go forward. You'll love the infatuation phase, and at the same time you'll know that's what it is, and you'll be able to focus on other stuff as needed.

You're right that the person may not be right for you, and over time you'll be better and better at understanding that when ... more.

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