How do I handle people who treat me so mean after my husband died of a stroke. They act as if they wish I died?

How do I handle people who treat me so mean after my husband died of a stroke. They act as if they wish I died. Asked by maybe 13 months ago Similar questions: handle people treat husband died stroke act Health > Alternative Medicine.

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I wish it were that easy. I have to teach them at the school where my husband and I both taught. And my teen age son goes to this school.

Maybe 13 months ago .

If they are teenagers, that explains a lot... I think you will then need to be a bit thick skinned. I'm guessing they probably miss him, and are taking it out on you.

I agree that you need to take the harassment and vandalism up with the administration. They need to be told in no uncertain terms that grief does not harm others.

Thanks, This is a "christian" private school that is having a hard time punishing the student who is resposible because the parents give a lot of money, I assume. The teenager, who used to be friends with my son, confessed that the father vandalized my property as well. Yes, I try to forgive them.

But I still can't understand it....I'm surprised by people in general. It's been 8 months since my husband died and I've come to realize that most people just don't know how to handle a person who has been grieving. I'm back on my feet as best I can, but every "first" without my husband is really hard.

I know I'm not the only one out there. I know it could be even worse. I just hope that if there are other people going through this, they realize that they are not alone.

Thanks for the feedback. Maybe 13 months ago .

I always find it distressing when people who profess to be Christians set such a terrible example.

They are obviously NOT your friends. The way to handle them is simply to no longer deal with them!

Unfortunately, I have them as students in the same school that both my husband and I taught. These people have vandalized my property, picked on my teen age son, who is also grieving. And they claim they do it because they are grieving as well.

I'm really worn down and can only go on being a pillar of strength for so long! Maybe 13 months ago .

Take this matter up with the administrator at the school you work for (or go to the school board, if necessary). No teacher should have to put-up with harassment! .

You are to forgive them...ask God to bless them...then only good can happen. They may not have know how to act. Just thank people.

I say..."Father forgive them for they know not what they do. " .

You could transfer/move...just ignore/smile..pray...give them a positive way to grieve...a project in his memory... I talked to the milk ladies mostly when I taught...not the teachers who didn't accept me...I didn't fit in with them. Just don't react to it.

Then what is obviously happening is an attempt to get rid of the teacher by hurting the teacher. Yes, these little runts will kick a person when she's down. They will say, "Oh, Mr. ______ was such a great teacher that it's a pity he died and not Mrs. _____.

" They lie. They don't think Mr. ______ was a great teacher; they say that by way of then trying to get something for free by getting rid of Mrs. _____. Your method of meeting this is to not let it succeed; do not allow their words nor their feelings nor their emotions nor their wants mean anything to you.

The easiest way to do this is to take 's advice and pray for them.

Unfortunately some people seem to just like to be mean. I'm sorry that you are having to go through that after losing your husband. We can't control what other people do.

We can only control how we react to them. Try killing them with kindness as the saying goes. People come either from a place of love or a place of fear so obviously these people are coming from fear.

If it were me I would make sure to read something positive every morning and evening. When others treat me bad I would silently send out blessings and love to them. How we think and what we focus on has a very big impact on the world around us.

Also wearing essential oils has an impact on the emotions of yourself and on others. I have personally experienced this. My husband used to have a big problem with anger.

I started wearing a couple of our blends around him such as Joy and Peace & Calming. He almost never gets angry anymore. Never forget how awesome you are.

There is and ever will be only one of you. You are a masterpiece. God is your biggest cheerleader and you need to also become a cheerleader for yourself.

I hope this helps. Biz.

Talk to someone who won't judge you or see a therapist. It's important hen dealing with a loss and then having other problems of your own .

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Take this matter up with the administrator at the school you work for (or go to the school board, if necessary). No teacher should have to put-up with harassment! Predator 61 months ago.

Take this matter up with the administrator at the school you work for (or go to the school board, if necessary). No teacher should have to put-up with harassment! Predator 63 months ago.

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