How do I make my husband kick his brother and girlfriend out of our house?

Sounds like you need to take a step back and look at everything you have accomplished from before counseling, through it and now and take stock of what you behaviorally and emotionally want to see. This may not be easy to do if you are too anxious or depressed to think rationally. It is possible that having children cause depression.

It happens to the most brilliant of women, it's just the way neurobiology works sometimes. Another thing that may help is the lens in which you are looking at things. Its not easy to see things from another perspective because the way we see things is RIGHT for us.

But just take a stab at it for a moment. Okay, so you asked him to move his things into the spare bedroom. Sounds like you're not sure it was fair move to make.

Maybe you reacted too quickly maybe not, maybe it requires and apology. The great thing about building a solid relationship for 12 yrs is that you are able to have a temper tantrum, realize your fault and say sorry and teh other will still love you. I think the reality of all of this is that being together so long, you start to see how human you can really be and sometimes, that can be nasty.

It may question what you want or don't want and may make you feel as if you are a failure or wasted time. But if some of us (even me sometimes) can take a step back and really figure out if the way we are living matches what we envision for yourselves it may help cope or fix something. You mentioned: He doesn't show you any physical affection other than a kiss on the cheek.

I don't have much more information after that, I'm not sure if this was discussed in counseling but he needs to know you need more. He is HUMAN too he has feelings too, so if he is reacting that way, a long talk is needed. This maybe the point in the relationship where space maybe needed to take stock of both of your feelings.

But again, keep in mind if you are already going through any depression (postpartum) it's not easy and yes it's going to be rough. Take breaks if need be. I do not know you or your husband, but I am just speaking to the limited information given here.

-Good luck LadyL. PS: Not sure if this is helpful, but a close friend took a "break" from her loving husband, both were married for 8 years. She took a cruise with her mother and sister and he stayed home.

They returned realizing they missed each other and wanted to be together. It may or may not work, but it was an example of a break that someone I know took.

I don't know the real reason for your husbands actions, but I bet he is under some stress related things that are taking a toll on your marriage, or just in a funk. Men like to internalize things, or compartmentalize things because they might be trying to figure out how to do something, or they might feel weak,if they ask for help. I think that one approach would be to not badger him, or nag(not saying that you are), but to approach him in a way that shows your affections and understanding of what he is going through.

Empowerment for both of you is very critical right now, being that you have tow youngsters there, both under the age of three. Has something at work happened to him, is he feeling overwhelmed with finances at home, and why is he not confiding in his wife? Until he gets these things in order, the sexual thing in your relationship will stay at a stalemate.

It might not be anything against you, but these external things, if not attended to may get worse. Please try and be understanding, and let him see that you are, adn that TOGETHER, you all can work out anything. Good luck, and keep in touch with a professional!

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