How do you get your wife to love you again when she has walked out and said it's absolutely over?

Ul>I am very sorry to hear this has happened to you. It appears neither of you had good communication skills in the first place. Everyone has some problems in their marriage and you both should have learned how to communicate feelings towards each other.

Sometimes things in our lives no matter how painful happen for a reason. She just may not be the right woman for you and won't be at your side for the hundred yard dash (sticking by you until death do you part.) Women can say things they don't mean. I know you feel like you've lost your whole life and probably are in shock or at least grieving over her leaving.

The best thing to do is start getting out with friends and be more active. If you can afford it go on a vacation for a couple of weeks to clear your head so you can figure out where you are going from here. When you get over the hurt and are out with friends don't be afraid to date.

By sitting around and moping and hoping your wife will come back is a waste of time and energy for you. Perhaps if she sees you out and about and even dating other women she may decide to come back. Some women get to a certain age (generally starts from 40 plus) and are searching for something missing in their lives, but don't always know what it is.

She may well find that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. If she doesn't come back then remember that there are at least three times more women in this world than men! You could eventually meet up with a wonderful woman that is more suited to you.

You can't make someone love you. The good thing is that because she is a woman, if she did ever truly love you, there is probably still a soft spot in her heart for you. Your best possible hope is to genuinely let her know that you still love her no matter what and that you will wait for her.

Then you have to let her go. You will have to allow her to move on and you need to do the same but if it was meant to be, she will come back to you. One thing that works in your favor is that a lot of people have no idea of what commitment and true love really is so they may just drive her back to you.

BOTTOM LINE: You can't make a person love you but your best hope of getting her back is to let her go. Understand that a woman leaves because she has lost hope of having that relationship meet her emotional needs. If you can re-ignite that hope, then her heart will force her to consider coming back to you.

You may not be able to re-ignite that hope, but the easiest and quickest way to re-ignite it in most cases is to be able to say to her (metaphorically, if not literally): "Welcome to my adventure." There are three elements to that statement: 1) Adventure: Your life must be an adventure. It must be enjoyable.

Exciting. Filled with passion. Or else why would she to be a part of want it?

2) My: It must be *your* adventure. You have to have a level of independence. An amazing guy I know (who really understands women) once said, "Women want to be taken *on* an adventure; they don't want to *be* the adventure."

This is where many guys go wrong. Establish your own purpose and direction in your life. Make it *your* adventure.

3) Welcome: You have to welcome her in. How many a man has his adventure--his passion-filled, purpose-filled life--but he doesn't welcome his wife into it. But realize that this one has to come after the other two.

Many men try to simply welcome a woman into their life, but their life doesn't really have much value to offer her. If you can honestly say to her, "Welcome to my adventure," then you can re-ignite that hope. If you make your life your own adventure, you may find that you will no longer be in as desperate need of her.

The beautiful thing about that is that she will be more drawn to you as a result of your not being desperate. And not only will your wife be more drawn to you, but if things don't work out with her, *any* woman will be more drawn to you. Because you'll simply have more to offer.

First, work out why she's said this. If you've been cheating, then maybe you SHOULD be with someone else, and you should just let her go. Sometimes women say stuff as a test.

If this has just happened out of the blue, then this might be the case. If this is the case, then she wants to see if you'll fall begging at her feet or try and win her back a lot. Having been a wife who left...he would have had a HUGE chance to have me back if he had apologized for the neglect and thoughtlessness in our lives to this point.

If he had reapproached me with affection and kindness. I left after 22 years because he had gone years, despite my clear requests for consideration, without doing this. You know, my sons do know that when you marry, you promise to care for the other person even when you are too tired/bored/busy before yourself and they do the same.

If she asks you to do something, just do it. Time dating and obtaining some guidance to rebuilding your friendship would be the way to go. A book I like is "Talking and Listening Together" by Sherod Miller.

I am very sorry to hear this has happened to you. It appears neither of you had good communication skills in the first place. Everyone has some problems in their marriage and you both should have learned how to communicate feelings towards each other.

Sometimes things in our lives no matter how painful happen for a reason. She just may not be the right woman for you and won't be at your side for the hundred yard dash (sticking by you until death do you part.) Women can say things they don't mean. I know you feel like you've lost your whole life and probably are in shock or at least grieving over her leaving.

The best thing to do is start getting out with friends and be more active. If you can afford it go on a vacation for a couple of weeks to clear your head so you can figure out where you are going from here. When you get over the hurt and are out with friends don't be afraid to date.

By sitting around and moping and hoping your wife will come back is a waste of time and energy for you. Perhaps if she sees you out and about and even dating other women she may decide to come back. Some women get to a certain age (generally starts from 40 plus) and are searching for something missing in their lives, but don't always know what it is.

She may well find that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. If she doesn't come back then remember that there are at least three times more women in this world than men! You could eventually meet up with a wonderful woman that is more suited to you.

You can't make someone love you. The good thing is that because she is a woman, if she did ever truly love you, there is probably still a soft spot in her heart for you. Your best possible hope is to genuinely let her know that you still love her no matter what and that you will wait for her.

Then you have to let her go. You will have to allow her to move on and you need to do the same but if it was meant to be, she will come back to you. One thing that works in your favor is that a lot of people have no idea of what commitment and true love really is so they may just drive her back to you.

BOTTOM LINE: You can't make a person love you but your best hope of getting her back is to let her go. Understand that a woman leaves because she has lost hope of having that relationship meet her emotional needs. If you can re-ignite that hope, then her heart will force her to consider coming back to you.

You may not be able to re-ignite that hope, but the easiest and quickest way to re-ignite it in most cases is to be able to say to her (metaphorically, if not literally): "Welcome to my adventure." There are three elements to that statement: 1) Adventure: Your life must be an adventure. It must be enjoyable.

Exciting. Filled with passion. Or else why would she to be a part of want it?

2) My: It must be *your* adventure. You have to have a level of independence. An amazing guy I know (who really understands women) once said, "Women want to be taken *on* an adventure; they don't want to *be* the adventure."

This is where many guys go wrong. Establish your own purpose and direction in your life. Make it *your* adventure.

3) Welcome: You have to welcome her in. How many a man has his adventure--his passion-filled, purpose-filled life--but he doesn't welcome his wife into it. But realize that this one has to come after the other two.

Many men try to simply welcome a woman into their life, but their life doesn't really have much value to offer her. If you can honestly say to her, "Welcome to my adventure," then you can re-ignite that hope. If you make your life your own adventure, you may find that you will no longer be in as desperate need of her.

The beautiful thing about that is that she will be more drawn to you as a result of your not being desperate. And not only will your wife be more drawn to you, but if things don't work out with her, *any* woman will be more drawn to you. Because you'll simply have more to offer.

First, work out why she's said this. If you've been cheating, then maybe you SHOULD be with someone else, and you should just let her go. Sometimes women say stuff as a test.

If this has just happened out of the blue, then this might be the case. If this is the case, then she wants to see if you'll fall begging at her feet or try and win her back a lot. Having been a wife who left...he would have had a HUGE chance to have me back if he had apologized for the neglect and thoughtlessness in our lives to this point.

If he had reapproached me with affection and kindness. I left after 22 years because he had gone years, despite my clear requests for consideration, without doing this. You know, my sons do know that when you marry, you promise to care for the other person even when you are too tired/bored/busy before yourself and they do the same.

If she asks you to do something, just do it. Time dating and obtaining some guidance to rebuilding your friendship would be the way to go. A book I like is "Talking and Listening Together" by Sherod Miller.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.